@thepottymouthguru: Feedback is a hell of a lot easier to hear when your brain isn’t simultaneously preparing a legal defence for your entire character. And sometimes the hardest part is realizing that you can disagree with someone’s version of events AND still care about what the experience was like for them. You don’t have to confess to shit you didn’t do. You don’t have to accept every criticism as truth. And you don’t have to disappear your own perspective. But if you need to prove them wrong before you can get curious about what hurt them, there’s probably something worth paying attention to there. The goal is enough internal safety to hear the uncomfortable stuff, figure out what’s actually yours, and own the fuck out of that part. Without turning yourself into either the villain or the defence attorney. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #UNFUCKYOURSELF #THEPOTTYMOUTHGURU #ShameHealing #Shame #Defensiveness
I have been trying to have this EXACT conversation with my ex wife for years now. Sending this to her because you explain it much better than i ever have! Thank you for how you shed light on people's struggles who struggle to explain them themselves!
2026-09-13 10:47:02
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The Pottymouth Guru :
Also watch for the sneaky version: “Fine, I’m just a horrible person. I can’t do anything right.” That can FEEL like accountability because you’re clearly feeling terrible. But now the other person has to stop talking about their hurt and convince you you’re not awful. We’re getting into that one next. 👀❤️
2026-08-31 16:12:24
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Mike H :
Yes the problem is that usually they’re screaming in my face and I’m having a fully blown panic attack, it’s kind of hard to get them to have a moment where they can hear “can I just have a second to collect myself?”
2026-09-01 02:19:11
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Tracy Moore 🇨🇦 🇯🇲 :
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Gonna remember this!
2026-08-31 19:01:27
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user3705150827161 :
This is fucking amazing.
2026-08-31 22:49:10
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1Bizzymom - 🧠 AuDHD Life 🌻 :
instant follow
2026-09-01 02:28:08
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karen_quinney :
So well articulated
2026-08-31 19:03:53
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karijo2035 :
SOOOOO DAMN GOOD ! This takes so much therapy ! My wounds we're running my reality and when I finally figured out my worthiness outside of the story, I told myself it was a game changer… It's taken years lol but recovery is not perfect. As long as it just gets better it's a victory.
2026-08-31 22:08:48
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Ave :
I constantly get to the “what did you need from me” part and they always shut down or say just forget it
2026-08-31 20:49:14
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nasmi uru :
She never misses
2026-09-02 16:38:49
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candi 🌈 🇺🇸🏳️🌈 :
It’s a way to avoid
2026-09-01 16:18:57
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karen_quinney :
E
2026-08-31 19:03:47
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Kerry D 🇨🇦 :
❤️❤️❤️
2026-09-02 23:25:09
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