@codependencykate: Replying to @ems_potatogems just because someone is AN authority figure over you (at the time- a licensed therapist, my professor, someone more experienced than me) doesn’t mean they are THE authority over YOUR life. Make your own rules
The dynamics of parenting have to change. You have really brought to light how we are shaped as children affects us as adults. My husband literally did not know it was an option for him to say no to something. I have never seen a bigger people pleaser. He always said yes to me which was great at first. Then every decision became my job. Then I was expected to people please as well to appease his family. He was afraid if he said no or did what he wanted to, no one would like him. I encourage him to say no to me. It is such a task but he is doing better (he is 53!)
2026-08-31 20:09:26
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Mac :
I need a "how to make your own life rules" worksheet
2026-08-31 19:22:53
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Grimlockthedj :
it was "unethical" to their wallet
2026-08-31 17:02:13
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julesgolde :
I am so grateful to social media therapists. you all have helped me so much to heal and be a more complete person. I don't see how there's anything unethical about that.
2026-08-31 23:20:21
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notmycircus :
Did they say why it’s unethical?
2026-08-31 21:21:24
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Megan Eastman190 :
I’m 42 and a mom to twin 3 year olds. For 15 years before kids I was teaching mindfulness and yoga. 2 weeks after I gave birth my brother passed. I was disassociated the first year, angry the second and grieveing/accepting my third year. As I come out of a very dark place I have realized the only thing I can do is be there for other people and to continue to follow my passion of mental health. I’m especially drawn to helping women postpartum. ( and yes, the Lindsey Clancy trail feels beyond pivotal at this time in my life. )
2026-09-01 00:52:57
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🧡 :
Sounds like family court experts who just perpetuate the abuse cycle
2026-08-31 19:01:21
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LOLONONO🇨🇦 :
Thank you for being a renegade ❤️I sure appreciate you
2026-08-31 21:59:48
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Fayls :
I still vividly remember explaining to my mother when she was maybe 55-60 that she was ALLOWED to say no. People asked because she had a choice, and if she said no and I really really needed it, I would tell her that also. Her mind was blown 🤯 My poor mother, all the time not knowing she could be a good mom and still say no 🥺
2026-09-01 08:58:48
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Lucy Rodriguez :
You have helped me so much and I have incorporated a lot of your lessons into the lessons I teach my sons. Very glad and grateful you didn’t listen to them
2026-08-31 20:19:54
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Amy Stephens :
You have been incredibly helpful to me and I’m so grateful you didn’t listen to the haters who tried to silence your voice ❤️
2026-09-02 03:11:17
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Jaime :
Thank you for telling your story 😭😭😭😭
2026-09-02 15:24:14
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djoj :
I believe when people start to decide on their own what they think are good ethics and base rules, instead of blindly following what was given to them, then they finally fully learn what they studied for.
And I'd say you're a good example for that :)
2026-08-31 23:40:22
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Kimberly Percy :
Thank you for all the hard you are going through to bring useful information to us! Because of your videos I was able to find the words to call out toxic behavior in others and myself and find real healing. I now also understand how to help my kids have healthy relationships and a positive outlook on life.
2026-08-31 21:20:23
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Anastasia :
I read a book called The Audacity to be You and it was all about this and learning that it’s ok to figure out what you want, like, think, etc and to voice it.
2026-09-01 15:14:26
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Dr.Carlee| Vet Practice Rising :
This was awesome to hear! Personally I’ve learned a ton from your videos. And I’ve struggled with much of the same things concerning being online 🤦♀️it has been huge for me to just accept what I want and do it. Thanks for being here!!
2026-09-01 02:11:25
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✨Amor🖤Fatty✨ :
Yessssssss. I’m in grad school and this is so inspiring.
2026-09-01 01:44:47
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Brrrrridget💮 :
“I don’t wanna be like you guys” 🏆🏆🏆🏆
2026-09-01 12:15:41
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Birkenheath :
I received this. Dealing with bureaucracy within homeschooling… I decide.
2026-09-04 05:12:49
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Good Girl Deconstructed :
💜 💜💜
2026-08-31 17:11:09
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