Anthony | How to People
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Monday 31 August 2026 18:17:25 GMT
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All Things Miscellaneous :
I've made friends at local tech college classes, local recreational learning classes, intermural sports teams (the non competitive ones for me), walking my dog, volunteering places I have an interest in (cleaning up my local beach, habitat for humanity), I took the friends from the local learning class and co-founded a crochet club that meets at a local bar and brings in new members whenever people ask what we are doing... I'm sure there's more but that's what I can think of right now for ideas
2026-09-01 13:10:26
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samiduguay4 :
Also just like, be friendly and nice at places you frequent. I made a friend on vacation once because we loved each other’s purses and ended up getting coffee. I’ve also done this by talking about books at a book store with the person behind the counter. Just be open to getting to know people
2026-09-01 13:11:47
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Elias the sleepy moth VT :
as an autistic person who's been very depressed in his adult years because I just can't seem to grasp how people socialise this is extremely helpful thank you so much
2026-08-31 20:11:27
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Silran :
what's a good place to visit regularly? restaurant? grocery store? my knees aren't functional enough for the gym, and my local game stores only play magic the gathering....
2026-08-31 23:13:20
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or_nion :
YES being social is a SKILL, thank you ! another tip: your guts are mean, your guts are lazy and wanna stay home 'cause they're scared : GO TO THE THING, FUCK THE GUTS. Stop canceling shit 'cause you're tired or don't feel like going, GO. Show up even for only 1h, GO. AND BRING A LITTLE SNACK. If you always cancel and never is there for the village the village will stop inviting you, GO (and yes, I have autism, it costs me spoons, if I'm exhausted to the point of non verbal I'm messaging politely to apologize about canceling but otherwise I manage my spoons and I GO)
2026-08-31 20:18:47
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Rabbit :
People in the comments are talking about coffee shops or restaurants, but the real gold is hobby groups. Its hard to make a genuine connection with someone paid to be nice to you. However if you have a hobby (reading, crafting, board games, dnd, gardening, politics, etc) find a local group and start attending regularly. its MUCH easier make friends with people you already have something in comments with.
2026-08-31 23:20:54
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Squeegee :
it irritates me so bad when people are lile "i have no friends" but they reject when I offer to bring them to events or introduce them to people. where do they think the friends come from??? space???
2026-08-31 21:58:20
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conmox14 :
Moving to a new city soon so saving this for later
2026-08-31 18:25:12
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Molly :
This is why mothers end up so isolated because between work and childcare how the hell are you supposed to go anywhere regularly???
2026-09-01 08:00:19
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<3 :
I’m autistic and moving to where I know absolutely no one so this is insanely helpful. It’s really anxiety relieving so thank you
2026-09-01 13:07:15
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marysjarosz :
for me it ends at the last step - we hang out once and never again, like they're not interested in anything more
2026-09-01 05:52:09
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Stelle :
It’s really hard to find people when you’re mentally behind due to trauma and the things you enjoy everyone is mentally your age but actually younger than you and all people seem to care about is something my brain can’t brain as
2026-09-01 12:58:52
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katdc32 :
ALSO you’re going to have to keep doing it. People might not be interested in being outside friends or you might not click. You have to keep trying
2026-09-01 12:52:42
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Mynameisprivate :P :
how do people go places when I'm so tired after work
2026-09-01 10:09:10
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Zaya :
Oh i'm doomed
2026-09-01 01:38:35
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Enki :
I gotta get over this whole thing of wanting friends that put in all the effort. Im so flaky and withdrawn it's starting to make me as mad as the people I do it to.
2026-09-01 04:47:52
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A_dude_doing_stuff&things :
but home is where all my stuff is.
2026-09-01 06:02:35
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K :
coworker: what’re you doing after work? me: going straight home. you? coworker: i’m going to ulta me: wanna go together? coworker: yeah and that’s how we became friends that hangout regularly. i’ve realized the “what’re you doing after this?” method is unpatched and works in every scenario
2026-08-31 23:58:53
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homley belligerent potato :
get a hobby that forces you to network. i have a friend i met in the comments of a forum 10 yrs ago. he lived close by. we worked on our cars together
2026-09-01 03:54:00
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Sam Hitchcock163 :
sounds like hell 🤣🤣🤣 actually having to talk to people...
2026-09-01 10:47:28
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Restless Echo :
I'd rather die
2026-09-01 04:14:57
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tequilabackflip :
I’ve made literally all my friends at the dog park.
2026-09-01 02:51:08
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SexyLittleFatBoy :
Shared group activities/interests are great. I'm actually super bad at starting conversations, but I'm really good at public speaking, so I rely on performing really well on stage and then being friendly when people then approach me. It's a little embarrassing, but I still get nervous approaching people, and I suspect it makes me come across as an aloof weirdo. 😬 I'm actually a very friendly weirdo! 😅
2026-08-31 19:19:34
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Damien :
I speak from experience that you also have to get over “not texting first” and letting resentment build up. Friendships take work and you have to put in effort when you don’t feel like it. People don’t just “come” to you.
2026-08-31 23:02:22
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Tim Schneider :
Yep, genuinely accurate, go somewhere regularly, talk to people, invite them to do other stuff, boom new friends
2026-09-01 11:50:39
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