The Pain NP
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onepagegames :
I absolutely utilize this technique and despite the fact that he doesn't talk ever in the appointments they will shake his hand first, look him in the eye, and tell *him* my care plan as if I'm not in the room. It'd be fascinating to witness if it wasn't so frustrating.
2026-09-01 04:19:39
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🖤🤍✨TheArcher✨🤍🖤 :
They will still think we are exaggerating it or we should just try harder. Before my illness took everything from me, they blamed it on me being "too athletic" - too much running, I'm putting myself through too much. Now I'm bed ridden and 45, now I'm being told it's about the age it's perimenopause and it's likely just fibro. I literally went to the Mayo clinic for a TBI and whiplash injury and the blame game continues. It's dehumanizing.
2026-09-01 01:51:39
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Beard :
I’m bringing my husbanded with me to my pcp appointment next week since I’ve already been denied referral to rheumatology for my CRMO. My CRPS is my most active condition currently, but it’s wild that I feel like I need to bring someone to support me to get a referral to keep my other conditions under control. Probably doesn’t help being in the Midwest.
2026-09-05 02:09:13
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plantslife99 :
thanks for sharing your advice.
2026-09-01 05:34:51
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user6120948350913 :
My sleep physician just told me I should have my ovaries taken out and lessen my migraine pain before I come back to address my chronic insomnia.
2026-09-01 02:25:13
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Miranda :
Oh absolutely! I’ve brought a man so he can validate (completely unnecessary as I should be the focus and believed) what he sees me go through on a daily basis - plot twist, though, is that the provider will spend more time speaking to my spouse than me…the patient. I’ve left in full-blown meltdowns over that because it’s so dismissive and rude (I’m mad at both of them when I leave). My spouse works in healthcare and knows many, many, surgeons in our enormous city and therefore they spend time discussing other surgeons’ credentials and impressive reputations. You’d think that’d be beneficial, but it leaves me with very little time to talk about MY symptoms. The best doctor I had (who, after a year, unfortunately couldn’t control/treat my pain) was not a white man, and I always saw him solo and received his full attention. If it’s a white man, especially a surgeon, I am completely invisible and they want to talk shop. As a staunch feminist with an impressive career in contracts negotiation with the intelligence community and an advanced degree from a prestigious school, I find it so hurtful…but dare we get angry and demand attention because we will automatically be dismissed as a difficult, anxious, female patient. (That “white man” thing is really going to make people upset, but I’m merely dictating my experience - nothing more; nothing less.)
2026-09-01 22:45:16
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umicant1 :
I just had pain np ask me about sexual abuse and sud in my family im like what’s this got to do with herniated discs and tailbone fracture
2026-09-01 02:06:39
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Jeanene :
SO.FUCKIN SAD
2026-09-01 02:07:19
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Alice❌ :
I was dumbfounded by your question about my possible use of ketamine from a previous post. Why would you immediately go there? It was more likely due to smoking cigarettes.
2026-09-01 08:37:39
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suz19864 :
I started brining my mom, she’s a nurse and my biggest advocate. My pain doc immediately changed my pain meds to a different kind without blinking his eyes when my mom was there.
2026-09-01 20:10:08
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Fishgirl_for_life. :
i have a dr appt for my autonomic stuff sept 2 🙌🙌🙌🫶🫶🫶thank u for the support . it means the world . its been scary too 🥺
2026-09-01 07:08:01
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Kandi :
It works, I take my son with me.
2026-09-01 11:34:26
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HermioneTink :
I refuse to see a male doctor if I can help it… minimise, dismiss, patronise and downright rude and that’s not to mention physical pain caused by a gynaecologist- that was also dismissed. Sick of it - we need more female doctors!
2026-09-01 22:20:22
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Freydis.vk :
Years ago I once had a Dr. tell me just to have a glass of wine before bed !!!
2026-09-01 02:21:58
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RedneckTransdude :
I still have to bring my RN wife with me because my gender on file is unchanged. This isn’t pain related, but to further prove your point: I was told for over *two decades* that I couldn’t possibly have epilepsy (for a rash of different reasons, different ones from every doc) I’M LITERALLY HAVING BRAIN SURGERY MY EPILEPSY IS SO BAD. It was only because of my RN wife seeing a seizure while we were still dating and her yelling at both the EMT and the ER doctor that finally got me on the road to diagnosis (and two upcoming brain surgeries 😬😩)
2026-09-01 02:39:21
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Jess likes drawing ✩₊˚.⋆☾⋆⁺₊ :
its true though. 3 months of telling my doctor im in pain. brought my husband who said "shes been in bed for 3 months, and needs meds." and i ginally got meds.
2026-09-01 03:19:21
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Stephanie :
Waited over 3 months to see this specialist. Shook my had and within 2 min referred me to a different doctor. Got my visit and he documented a full assessment. Funny, I missed the day in nursing school where a handshake tells you lung sounds and bowel sounds. Some I'm like ok, you can see that, but I was pissed.
2026-09-04 13:46:29
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Miwito :
HOW DID YOU GET INTO THIS SPACE? Lots of school or is there a lower level transition for people wanting to learn, grow, and help others in this space? Thanks! 🙏🏼
2026-09-04 19:30:35
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Monica Grabo :
I take my husband to specialist appointments. I have yet to meet a specialist who didn't mention my age, that I'm a woman, or that I have anxiety to explain why they won't investigate or treat my issues.
2026-09-01 14:03:02
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Lisa Clark287 :
When my husband wasn't with me I was definitely treated so badly by the doctor. But if he was with me that same doctor would be sicky nice.
2026-09-03 14:58:54
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tatmetoo79 :
First, thank you for all the amazing content! It has helped me feel seen in many ways and help explain my pain to others in a positive way. Secondly, my wife now goes to ALL my appointments for similar reasons. Thankfully she was with me during a first and last appointment at a pain clinic to move towards getting a pain pump. Had she not been with me I don't think she or anyone would have believed me when I described the appointment from the second the doctor walked into the room. Absolutely the worse doctor experience I've had and hope to never experience again. Having another person with you helps more than most people make think. I'll never go alone again. Thanks and keep the great content coming.
2026-09-01 21:51:10
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mel_smiley :
All of these points are fantastic, and actually needed. Is there any way to implement them, (in the chronic pain sphere) that can actually get things done, instead of receiving eye rolls or dismissals? “Frequent flyers” are those experiencing pain frequently… not trying to ‘game the system’. We just need help.
2026-09-03 05:01:45
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Dis_lfiznoturs itzGods🥰 :
Yes I have, I track and talk about functions I can do.
2026-09-02 23:58:18
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Kell-i-e :
So true , my husband will be at my next appt
2026-09-02 22:32:02
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🎀MELI🌷 :
I had to, they treated him bad as well
2026-09-03 00:55:36
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