@coach.ryan0: The closer you get, the colder they become. Not because you stopped being valuable… but because you became valuable enough to trigger everything they refuse to heal. But don’t romanticize it: being treated like garbage is not proof that you mattered. Their wounds may explain the cruelty. They do not give them permission to destroy you. 🧊 #AvoidantAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ToxicRelationships #RelationshipTok
he traumatized me so much, I can't stop thinking about him,and I can't think of being with anyone else.
2026-09-01 18:27:45
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sallyc56 :
OMGOODNESS. So tired. Will not let me get close. I know he loves me in his capable way.
2026-09-05 20:21:25
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🌸Sara🌼 :
In a long-term online relationship with a fearful avoidant, is it normal for him to refuse or evade meeting in person?
2026-09-01 18:24:03
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Wen :
Yep. Says im the drama. That drama is his and only counselling will save him
2026-09-05 11:13:22
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Nana121 :
This is so backwards...
2026-09-02 06:00:36
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Shonta :
Never thought anything was wrong with me. I knew it was all him!!
2026-09-02 00:34:30
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rockhill_ranch :
That is so freaking sad!
2026-09-02 00:10:54
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frasny V :
Wow he really did love me 😂
2026-09-01 23:22:28
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Infinity Angel 😇 :
I let him go to heal 😇 fyp
2026-09-02 08:23:52
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1155 :
If they want to change, how can they actually do that?
2026-09-01 19:44:14
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J. Renee Writes :
Well, I must have meant a metric ton then 🤣
2026-09-01 21:29:44
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Nopeqm 🇨🇦 :
He completely broke my heart…. He said he doesn’t have a spark and can’t say the L word to me…. But yet just had talked about wanting me to meet his kids and talking about future plans…. Was I delusional?! I feel like I’ve lost my mind
2026-09-02 11:53:27
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AndrewA :
It’s been a painful healing journey. Feeling a bit nostalgic right now. Her 50th birthday is coming. I would have planned something special for us to celebrate. 10 months no contact. Trying to heal my heart.
2026-09-01 23:36:16
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Cyrel Larson :
This is do crazy and very difficult to understand. Total mind fuck for sure.
2026-09-02 02:12:35
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cica.24 :
He’s blocked me 🤣
2026-09-02 16:07:04
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duckone00 :
This satisfies me.
2026-09-01 20:14:45
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daniv0721 :
Then I must have mattered a lot! 😌
2026-09-02 00:07:47
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ChinisCDMX :
Can someone be an avoidant even if their childhood wasn’t that bad?
2026-09-01 22:19:00
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😸JessCO💞 :
But WHY????
2026-09-01 21:40:19
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👑🦁In His Image🐑👑 :
Please clarify: WHY do they discard the one they truly loved?! 😫🤷🏻♀️The one whom mattered? 😭 Is it because they’d rather discard us, than be discarded by us? 🤔
2026-09-02 13:31:05
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Breana Renee :
they get so mean 🤧
2026-09-02 15:27:43
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⭐️💎STARR💎⭐️74❌ :
That’s so messed up but hey at least I’m the high stakes person.
2026-09-02 07:52:20
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Maddie Clark :
But the thing is, is if they keep treating the high stakes as garbage they’re eventually gonna leave. But I guess that justifies that for them
2026-09-02 14:41:18
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