@styledbysurvival: Replying to @clairem4385 Sometimes control doesn’t look like someone openly attacking you. Sometimes they create the problem, shape the way everyone else sees you, and then step in as the comforting person who “saves” you from the very situation they helped create. This comment reminded me of one of the clearest examples from my own marriage—and once I saw the pattern, I couldn’t unsee it. I’m not speculating about anyone else’s relationship. I’m talking about mine, and why certain dynamics make survivors stop and think. #CoerciveControl #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse #DVSurvivor #AbuseAwareness
Ps don’t ever go to marriage counseling with your abuser
2026-09-02 16:40:57
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Rebekah :
Yesss my ex husband made me believe I was always at fault. I apologized for everything when I did nothing wrong
2026-09-02 17:02:03
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Jennie :
Fortunately, my therapist recognized my ex for who he truly was and described him as showing up like a knight in shining armor on a white horse……
2026-09-02 21:06:38
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Mothing :
My counsellor refused to do marriage counselling with an abuser now I see why
2026-09-02 21:03:27
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ClaireEmm23 :
Oh that’s so gross! 😒 It’s also upsetting that the therapist couldn’t even see through any of it
2026-09-02 19:08:20
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😼Jaime Claire Brazzell ♥️🤷 :
mine dragged me to couples therapy and cried about how sorry he was for having an affair while still having the affair.
2026-09-02 21:36:19
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Shellie_Beean :
I have actually sat in that exact same room with the exact same counselor, metaphorically of course
2026-09-02 20:40:13
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auroradaun999 :
Same thing happened to me it’s ridiculous
2026-09-03 17:50:32
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nOOdles :
I went thru exactly THIS….
2026-09-03 23:18:45
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CEC200 :
My abusive ex called himself a fixer. He acted like he fixed all my numerous, ever present problems. Of course the truth was that HE was the problem and I had to accommodate, explain, make things right for what he did. I hate that ppl fall for their lives.
2026-09-14 05:11:13
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Adie :
OMG! Yes!! I had this!! ……….. Him telling you he didn’t like how hard the therapist went at you was his excuse to not go back, disguised as protecting you. Really it’s because he knew he couldn’t continue the act longer than the initial visit? Mmmhhmmmm
2026-09-06 15:31:27
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dizzyizzyart :
see this is why I'm so grateful for people like you who share your stories. i thought I deconstructed all the ab*se from my ex teen years ago and your story reminded me of something VERY similar happening. OMG. I'm so sorry you went through that though.
2026-09-04 00:29:29
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BonnyO :
Been there & done that. I got upset & walked out once the therapist started in on me. Unfortunately, Im still in this relationship (its a long story) & Im surviving... I guess you can say but Im at my breaking point.😞
2026-09-04 21:28:41
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amberndaniels🆘️🇺🇸🗽🔥 :
my narcissist ex-husband would throw out "well let's just go to therapy", "why dont you want to go to therapy", etc and my response was "why?! so you can go put on a facade and fake charm the therapist?..."
2026-09-03 05:42:22
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PNWTeacherMom :
Literally marriage counseling with my first husband after he cheated with a long-distance ex he never stopped speaking with for a decade (I later found out about) THEN he experienced a psychotic break that I was responsible for navigating since he was untethered from reality. And had to hear ALL of this was my fault for not being supportive. I was too baselessly hopeful despite not being naive.
2026-09-03 14:52:48
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Phish Food 🦞 :
Mine did the exact same thing all the time. One time he physically attacked me for hours at a time, was chest bumping me and screaming “hit me, hit me” in my face, and then when I finally told him I was going to defend myself, he called the police. He then told the police a completely different story and when the police treated me like crap, he acted like he was somehow saving me from his own lies lol
2026-09-02 18:45:45
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WatchListenLearn :
So glad you got out. I’m so sorry 💔 Also, f that therapist…. Honestly a decent amount of therapists out there damaging folks I’m afraid (as well as many also saving/improving lives. Life sure is complicated)….
2026-09-05 03:17:03
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sheri73 :
Where did that marriage counselor get their certification? From a cracker jack box? That's insane. So sorry you had to deal with that.
2026-09-03 02:05:52
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🔥Kelly❤️🔥Dawn❤️ :
The therapist was probably his friend or he paid him to play the part!! 😡 Sorry you had to go through that! That’s horrible!! 🙏🏻🫶🏻♥️
2026-09-03 04:34:39
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Lil_onion :
let me guess. he picked the marriage counselor
2026-09-04 08:14:42
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