YUMI GARCIA SEEN IN TEARS WHILE VENTING TO MOMMY ONI IN VIRAL CLIP (1/2) We don’t know exactly what Yumi Garcia was crying about in those clips. We don’t know the full context, so I won’t pretend that a few minutes of a video tells us everything. But if her tears are connected to the issue currently being discussed, then I hope this becomes more than another social-media spectacle. Yumi, if you knowingly became involved with a man who already had a wife and a family, then this is the part where you also need to be honest with yourself. Hindi lahat ng bagay na tinatawag nating “love” ay tama. And being loved by someone doesn’t automatically make the situation right. If you knew there was already a family involved and still chose to continue, then you have to accept that your decisions may have hurt people who never asked to be part of your relationship. That doesn’t mean you deserve to be publicly humiliated. It doesn’t mean people should attack you endlessly. But accountability is still necessary. Because sometimes, people are so focused on defending their feelings that they forget to look at the consequences of their choices. And having a child together does not erase what happened before. The child is innocent. The child is never the mistake. The adults are the ones who made the decisions, and the adults are the ones who have to carry the responsibility. I’m saying this not because I think I’m better than you, but because I know what it feels like to be the child caught in the middle of adults’ choices. Growing up, I witnessed my father’s repeated cheating. Hindi lang isang beses o dalawang beses. I saw the lies, the secrets, the tension, and the damage it caused our family. When I was younger, I didn’t understand why my mother would call me “pokpok” whenever I played with boys. There were times I hated her for it because I was just a child. But as I grew older, I started understanding where her fears came from. Now that I’m in college, mas naiintindihan ko na kung gaano kalaki yung epekto ng mga bagay na akala ng adults ay “hindi naman naiintindihan ng bata.” Children understand more than you think. They remember the tension. The silence. The arguments. The absence. And sometimes, they grow up and finally understand the things they were too young to understand before. Yumi, if you ever read this, I hope you learn to accept your wrongdoings instead of only focusing on how hurt you are by the situation. Kung nasasaktan ka sa consequences ngayon, isipin mo rin ang legal na asawa na nasaktan dahil sa choices na hindi naman niya ginawa. You knowingly entered a situation where a married couple already existed, so accountability should come with it. Hindi kasalanan ng mga anak mo kung paano sila nabuo, and they should never carry the shame of their parents’ choices. One mostly consequence dito sa pinaggagawa mo, they’ll get bullied because of you. But one day, they may understand the circumstances and I hope by then, you’ve learned enough to honestly tell them that you made mistakes, took responsibility, and became better. Yumi, if there is something to learn from this, I hope it is this: Love should never require you to ignore the damage it causes to other people. Maturity is not about proving that you were also hurt. It’s about having the courage to admit when you were wrong. Own your choices. Learn from them. Do better. Not for the people watching, but for the children who will eventually look up to you. If a man truly wants to be with you, let him finish his existing relationship properly first. Don’t accept promises while another family is left dealing with the consequences. And to the men who cheat, you are responsible too. If you no longer love your partner, have the courage to say it and leave properly. Don’t keep one relationship while secretly building another. Because children should never become collateral damage in adult relationships. READ THE COMMENT SECTION. #tonifowler #yumigarcia #jelaiandres - @korapanggobyerno