@growwithkaela: It’s counterintuitive, but the harder the discard typically tells you how much your dismissive avoidant actually cared. Closeness feels like an overwhelming threat to their nervous system, so they will sabotage a healthy connection that they don’t feel they can consistently measure up to. They genuinely believe you’ll be better off without them.
But if they actually love you then why don’t they do the work to keep you? It’s so confusing
2026-09-03 21:42:34
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rhino :
Cares as in receives more enjoyment and euphoria hurting others the correct term is borderline personality disorder.
2026-09-03 22:49:15
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Avan :
And remember kids, they cheat because they love you very, very much!
2026-09-04 08:41:38
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ZoSo 💪 :
Who cares if they cared before. Tbey don't care now.
2026-09-04 19:42:37
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Tracy :
After the abrupt breakup. we both cried so hard. I blocked him because i couldnt bear to see any posts or picson his page. Got involved with someone else when i really wasnt healed and it was terrible. So i ended it and vowed to myself i would never prioritize anyone. I come first. Im a little bitter and cant see myself in another relationship. Then...my avoidant starts sending little breadcrumbs. Testing the water. I agreed to meet for drinks but im different now. I dont want a relationship with anyone anymore. Im the avoidant now. I can be just friends but I cant open that door anymore. Im too damaged.
2026-09-03 23:38:44
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Aurelia :
My DA discard me and has been seeing another girl less than a month after break up. They went on holiday and seen very happy. Idk if they are dating or in a situationship but they dont follow each other on instagram although he’s not so active. Do you think their relationship will last?
2026-09-05 08:03:46
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Sonolum the Dice Cleric :
No, it really IS as simple as "if they wanted to they would." In the end, they decided their CONSTANT comfort and NEVER having to acknowledge their behavior is more important that being a decent human being or treating you with respect. Why do we coddle emotionally abusive creeps, exactly?
2026-09-05 17:49:12
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GAZ74 :
They are simply not good people. They will hurt someone with care, they only truly care about themselves and control...
2026-09-06 23:00:08
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lllevaux :
He fell in love with someone else overnight and proposed less than a year later. She’s a narcissist so I guess he found someone who will never actually connect to him. Doesn’t make me feel better though
2026-09-04 05:00:42
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theburgessnesss :
Well said. One’s actions are their truth on display.
2026-09-04 00:06:58
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sunshinelover2001 :
mind u i got blocked on everything by a 32 year old man because i said i think i deserve better after he was intimate w me in person and then dry and cold over the phone
2026-09-03 22:30:39
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ScottFromFl :
I don’t want you because we are getting too close because we get along so well, she says. Well, I love you. I will hang around until we figure this out. That is what love is. Will I go crazy in the process and you might no longer feel the same? Possible. But I love you. That is what love is, says I.
2026-09-03 23:54:49
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_phoenix_meant to rise :
Mine moved on turns out he wasnt avoidant.he just hated me
2026-09-04 00:34:12
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Benjamin Short :
This only compounds the pain and confuses the situation. Not helpful.
2026-09-05 14:52:07
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boatsforsale123 :
refreshing to know, but.......?????
2026-09-04 04:31:48
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rozmundi :
One of the LLMs referred the discard as psychological violence
2026-09-05 00:39:27
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Hoot :
I miss her so much. Nothing has ever hurt this bad
2026-09-04 01:41:37
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Natalie ❤️ :
It’s all based in fear
2026-09-06 23:37:38
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Lexa Preaux 💜 :
I talked to my da after almost 10 years and he ghosted during a really fun conversation. I know him well enough to know he felt things and didn’t like it lol. I called him out on it and of course he ignored me. I met him with logic and truth no emotion. I know it shocked him because I wasn’t the same anxious person trying to understand his silent treatment. I called it exactly what it is, an emotionally abusive control tactic and he knows exactly what he’s doing. It’s his favorite defense mechanism.
2026-09-08 01:01:04
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IamTheRemnant :
Wow 🤯 I didn’t believe her. I thought it was an excuse. Thinking back on it. This tracks.
2026-09-04 22:34:33
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Wild Leo ♌️ :
I lost my cool after multiple times of me saying can you please stop and then I guess I pushed you hard and she walked away
2026-09-04 21:45:45
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Lola :
I always say “If they thought they could, they would”
2026-09-05 09:58:22
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🦋Angela🦋 :
He blocked me on every social media platform. I was empathetic and always there for him.
2026-09-04 12:39:04
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