@cypher.j: (if it's lagging come back later! or download to watch) the Substack on this, this evening will push far deeper into this! #intimacy #adult #men #women
This one wont get alot of traffic. Kinda get ptsd from the topic though
2026-09-04 06:21:02
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Mikey :
this mf is intelligent as FUCK
2026-09-04 02:09:01
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Sombercholy :
this is actually backed up by what happened with bumble. it was supposed to be an app where if you matched, the woman has to send the first message—initiate conversation. but women felt so pressured by it that they sued the app until it changed that rule.
2026-09-04 05:22:44
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Maverick :
I think the disconnect happens is because men’s “evidence” of being wanted and chosen is being asked for sex without having to initiate it. But a lot of women’s ways of showing they want and choose you, aren’t always sexual. For me personally, it’s inviting you into my space that I normally would only be in alone. Like spending the night, more specifically sleeping in the same bed as me. It’s an activity I hate because I value sleep so much, so for me to ask you to sleep with me is on the same level as you asking to have sex. But a lot of men don’t see it that way and that’s why the disconnect happens. You will initiate the thing you want most more than your partner. That’s unavoidable.
2026-09-04 02:53:17
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Mane :
Lost my sex drive for this exact reason. I'm 23, and have no desire or sex drive right now due to this thought process.
2026-09-04 03:46:01
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Jgparadox :
Patrice O Neal talks about this. Men have to learn how to be desirable or rather "loveable".
2026-09-04 02:31:22
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Maxx :
I can only speak for me I need emotional/mental connection to be turned on if you don't/can't do it well I guess that we aren't in alignment 🥺
2026-09-04 03:33:42
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John :
Flip the script man. Find someone that desires you. I spent too long chasing waterfalls. Get someone that actually cares.
2026-09-04 02:37:03
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A💫 :
Society usually shames women that try to initiate.. mind you, even your own man will eventually start to shame you for this too
2026-09-04 03:58:02
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Mitch :
I feel like desire from the female is subtle and is often missed. It will not be as apparent as the males desire that can be so up front. Also the male asking for it often cant really be called a burden for him? If he would slow down and treat her with respect (among many other things) he might just see her initiate more? Idk stuff im working on.
2026-09-04 03:25:19
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daniel :
Justin Scott never misses 😭
2026-09-04 01:27:44
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YoungWorldMobileApps :
Scott..wise beyond your years
2026-09-04 06:16:15
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Dez :
Incredible 👏🏾👏🏾
2026-09-04 05:09:55
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✨️🪷🤦♀️🌺✨️ :
Can't go looking for him if he's always in your face. Won't want to if his behavior is unattractive, or the experience has not been pleasurable.
2026-09-04 02:27:04
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smw :
This is so much better then my therapist. every video I learn something about myself or others. keep it up man!
2026-09-04 01:32:06
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Viviana Guerrero :
Just as I thought TikTok was dead…. I find this philosopher
2026-09-04 02:05:44
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sugarnova25 :
Men only receive flowers on their wedding day, and at their funeral. Women, we need to fix this it may help.
2026-09-04 01:47:17
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ultimate wrecker :
Been sayin this for so long frfr getting told yes is different then being wanted, you can have 1000 girls and still feel so alone and unwanted
2026-09-04 02:18:37
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Cotten#44 :
I don't know where this brother is but we need people protecting him at all times.
2026-09-04 03:19:18
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Mellow2hype on Twitch :
good gawd my guy I just got here
2026-09-04 01:24:15
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pseduu :
Perfect timings🫡
2026-09-04 01:08:45
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Aausha_K :
I feel like it needs to be noted that some women will come looking and kicking the door down if she feels loved consistently. Also for some of us emotional intimacy has to there before physical intimacy and affection are even an option to be voiced. I don’t think of men of objects, maybe that’s also considered an issue in this column of view.
2026-09-04 05:15:47
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