Painting a thermal handprint onto Casius' hair for Boomtown while I prove it's not just him that's high effort t 😭💋 The last video of him dyeing my hair created SO much conversation about men in relationships. Apparently helping your girlfriend do her roots means you're gay, a simp, her slave, or we're secretly in a lavender relationship • I think the reaction says way more about our expectations of men than it does about us We've somehow normalised such a low baseline that when a man is enthusiastic about helping his partner, doing something slightly feminine or putting effort into her life without acting embarrassed about it, people start searching for an ulterior motive.. but a woman doing what l've explained in this video for a man? Normal, no one bats an eyelid I don't think love should be measured by who does the bare minimum better. I think you should both be willing to inconvenience yourselves for each other, learn random skills for each other, help with things that technically aren't your job and take genuine interest in making the other person's life easier The important part is that it's reciprocal!!! He dyes my hair, I spend hours painting ridiculous thermal handprints onto his. He puts effort into me, I put effort into him. Neither of us is keeping score over whether something is traditionally the 'man's' or 'woman's' role. IMO your partner should be one of the people you can ask, 'will you help me with this?'and their first instinct isn't to worry whether doing it makes them look less masculine - @hollymarstonn