Ariel :
That's how it is when you don't know the whole situation, don't know what's in a person's heart, mind, or head — and you judge based on their behaviour and reactions. I can't say that after this conversation I can fully justify his behaviour — his flirting and so on — but I can say that maybe he's not a bad person, just someone who's confused and doesn't know what he wants. Either way, I probably shouldn't have judged him so harshly. But that's another flaw of mine: because I don't trust people, I jump to conclusions, and they're usually not pleasant ones — because it's easier for me to believe that someone is dishonest than that there might be a reason for their behaviour.
Still, I think that doubts about yourself and your feelings don't give you the right to act like that when you're in a relationship. It's probably very immature. Maybe he really is still very young, inexperienced, and doesn't know what he wants himself. And this situation may have given him some answer about what he wants, but he couldn't avoid the fact that Felix would be hurt. Because he only recently realised that something was wrong. If he had known for a long time and stayed silent — then yes, you could say, "Why did you keep hurting him and pretending everything was fine when it wasn't?" But in this situation, it all happened not so long ago, and if you've never felt that way before, you might not even understand what's going on. And when you don't understand what's inside you, it's even harder to explain it to others. How can you explain something you don't understand yourself?
I don't know — I'm a little confused about my own feelings regarding Felix and IN's relationship, and whether things could have been done differently and less painfully. I can't figure it out yet ❤️
2026-09-05 02:31:23