@coach.ryan0: Your feelings aren’t “too much.” They’re just inconvenient to someone committed to never being uncomfortable. They’ll dismiss your pain, avoid accountability, refuse to communicate… and then call their emotional selfishness a “boundary.” If protecting their comfort always requires sacrificing your feelings, that isn’t love. It’s a relationship built entirely around them. #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #EmotionallyUnavailable #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipTok
But I feel like avoidants are never TRULY comfortable… Internally, they are miserable, miserable people…
2026-09-05 20:53:12
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Andie B :
But that’s not an excuse….
2026-09-05 16:01:39
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Cakey :
So…. They’re a narcissist. Got it. ✨
2026-09-05 15:22:15
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Riley B :
talking to humans is uncomfortable. 👍
2026-09-06 20:31:24
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Scottish Clean Queen :
They'll literally close the door in your face if they don't like what you're saying. They'll hear you sobbing and say and do nothing.
2026-09-06 14:02:23
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Rodd :
Avoid the avoidants at all costs
2026-09-06 09:28:56
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become the best version of you :
so they are incompetent to the fact, I can't fix that
2026-09-06 12:03:01
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Michiboo :
they are very uncomfortable with intimacy as well
2026-09-06 05:08:32
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Vulcan212 :
Try having a conversation about their sex apps you have to dig dig and dig. I should’ve known better five years and I find out he was still on them.
2026-09-05 12:45:01
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clubman :
I lived with an avoident for years. it's really not worth wasting your time. 🥰
2026-09-06 08:59:16
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JustSparkz :
Their life is a secret
2026-09-05 21:29:30
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Angellee :
are they also narcissist? how do you know the difference from this and pycopath/ sociopath?
2026-09-06 12:08:38
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Just.one.more.thing :
They’re just not good people and it will always be about themselves. There is no we when it comes to people like this.
2026-09-05 22:42:45
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GenXADD :
Every single time.
2026-09-05 14:56:00
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Penguin bellyflop :
I was crying, telling my DA I didn’t feel loved. Instead of comforting and reassuring me, I got yelled at, “because I don’t.” They’ll leave you hurting in silence to protect their own weakness.
2026-09-06 09:17:52
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Melodiousesq :
Lock them up.
2026-09-06 02:06:37
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Pirate07Sam :
I guess what all these videos you have talked about have really head home on my recently relationship with one only to be discarded for four months into it and being told I had the red flags I’m left to figure out the rest of my life without them because they are unhinged unhealed individuals, and to know that they will find another relationship in which they will do the same to them, and yet all of his exes are blocked. His sisters are blocked. I’m blocked a strained a relationship with his only son and his ex ex-wife hates him, and Amir thought of him infuriated even more but yet I’m the one with the red flags.
2026-09-05 17:19:42
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IAmLove :
Sounds like someone I know.
2026-09-05 15:38:25
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justgwen :
this is my dad and his mom.
2026-09-05 16:28:09
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kiryukazuma :
shes being dismissive of my emotions even if they ask me to gift them things when she asked if im ok i dont know i didnt tell them i been sad but she said whats the problem now theres always a problem with you she said to me so i sat here and log off
2026-09-06 15:16:27
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lve2lose :
Coach Ryan thank you for your great videos regarding avoidance. I am glad you're no sugar coating or treating avoidance with kids glove.
2026-09-06 19:35:02
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🫥 :
Weird though, I grew up like that emotionally neglected…and I’m grown, I want to talk things out a resolve stuff…?
2026-09-06 03:24:20
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Tracy R :
Thank you for your videos!
2026-09-05 13:12:45
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Knapik82 :
literally💯💯💯
2026-09-05 20:15:34
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KAM :
Nothing is ever their fault and they literally don’t care about anyone other themselves.
2026-09-06 02:14:47
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