@elly.psychologist: Trying to get someone who consistently refuses to hear you to finally hear you can feel a lot like fighting your way out of a spider's web, and this comparison captures something real about how emotional abuse actually works, because each manipulation tactic functions like a different thread, and the more you struggle against it, the more entangled you become rather than less. Engaging feels like the natural response when you are dealing with emotional abuse and desperate to be understood, but with someone repeatedly using manipulation to avoid accountability, engagement does not loosen the web at all, it feeds it, because there is always another thread being spun the second you address the last one, rationalising, playing the victim, catastrophising, threatening, each one arriving from a slightly different angle. The actual purpose of that endless cycle of emotional abuse is rarely about winning any specific argument, it is simply to wear you down until you stop having feelings altogether, until your needs start to feel unwelcome enough that you eventually go quiet, and once you can see emotional abuse operating that clearly, disengaging starts to make a lot more sense, because it is not the same as swallowing your feelings or accepting the way you are being treated, it is refusing to keep supplying material to something that was never actually built to resolve anything. What genuinely helps when you are living with this kind of emotional abuse is not a sharper argument, it is somewhere else entirely to put those feelings, people who will simply hear your side without judging you, without making excuses for whoever is hurting you, and without trying to explain your own relationship back to you, because that is the real difference between being silenced by emotional abuse and actually being heard. Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #relationshipabuse #abusiverelationship #emotionalabuse #relationshipproblems #relationshiptok

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