Kelsey Miller
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Saturday 05 September 2026 19:05:07 GMT
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Abbie Rocap :
Family law paralegal here! Neverrrr ROFR for high conflict. The high conflict parent will not only NOT offer it to you, but they will use it to their advantage to prevent kids from going to summer camp, grandparents houses, aunts and uncles, even SLEEPOVERS WITH FRIENDS because “you’re not watching them” 🙄🙄🙄 then they will constantly bring it up to frame you as an uninvolved parent. Super fun!!
2026-09-05 21:23:13
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A D :
Former custody attorney and now-divorcee here, single parenting in a high-conflict/DV situation. The ONLY time I recommend ROFR is in a situation like mine - I have sole legal and physical custody, and my kids’ dad only has visitation for 5 hrs/month. In our case, ROFR makes sense - if he can’t prioritize seeing them for that 0.007% of the time, and would rather leave them with someone else, then it makes more sense for them to just stay home and not have their lives disrupted. Will he follow the order? Of course not. But if the kids share that they were left with someone else, I can file a contempt motion and have his visitation time cut further, to protect them further. In almost any other case, ROFR just gives controlling/abusive/high-conflict coparents another avenue for power and control games.
2026-09-05 20:16:48
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Charlotte :
We need a story time on how the evil doer hoodwinked you into marrying him xx
2026-09-05 19:16:23
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Blah :
People don’t realize how HARD HC coparenting is. You have to do mental gymnastics to make sure you are doing the right thing and stick to the order.
2026-09-05 19:14:41
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Stacey 🦦📚 :
Our judge said he would never grant that to us. And I couldn’t agree more with the judge.
2026-09-05 19:33:25
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Abigail | Motherhood 🍒 :
When the kids are the age they can choose which parent they want to be with are you going to pay to go back to court and let them talk to the judge and do it?
2026-09-05 19:58:14
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Leeann :
Is he a hands on dad? Just curious
2026-09-05 20:46:58
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Becki 🇨🇦 :
I understand your perspective and Im always anti Wreck It Ralph and Team You and Daddy Pat.
2026-09-05 19:12:26
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Penelope :
I’m so petty.. I would give him the same energy. If I can’t speak to my kids while they are with you, you get the same while they are with me..
2026-09-05 20:24:04
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🖤☕️𝓚𝓪𝔂𝓵𝓪⚰️🦇 :
They don’t follow the order! You are only locking yourself in extra rules. I learned the hard way🖤
2026-09-06 00:40:46
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skwiid :
If we had first right of refusal it would turn into me being my coparent’s on-call babysitter
2026-09-06 02:17:29
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missAmanda :
While I completely agree with everything you say I do hope that if he ships out for months at a time that you get them unfortunately that would mean the same on your end but when it’s for extended periods of time I feel the kids need to be with a parent and while your husband would be amazing with your kids your exs wife would not be
2026-09-05 22:59:33
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LostOne15 :
Parents who will comply with First Rights of Refusal don't need the order to do it.
2026-09-06 01:38:11
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💜Delilah S💜 :
If he doesn’t follow it then he would get contempt
2026-09-06 01:27:47
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Emilie | Easy Dinner Ideas :
I'm gonna a high conflict situation and have mediation this month, I was thinking of requesting first right of refusal if it's over overnight. What do you think?
2026-09-05 20:26:06
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702_grl_amy :
What these narcs don’t understand is that they are hurting their children. My son is 27 now and sees the level of abuse his father and his father’s family put him through all in the name of hating me.
2026-09-05 22:54:19
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secondnestvintage :
He will always lie. Ignore. Refuse to follow. They always do. Taking him to court would just be a waste of your money. He’s get a slap on the wrist at most.
2026-09-05 20:04:15
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Shae-lee B. Eldridge :
My husband and his ex have FROR. She only enforces it when it’s for her benefit. Not that we have EVER not given it to her. But we have caught her several times and called her out for it.
2026-09-06 01:20:14
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kaybee_herefortea :
such great points that people (such as myself) who are not in your shoes to see amd understand your perspective and thought process.
2026-09-05 19:40:00
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blancscreencinema :
Then YOU could do whatever you wanted and he can’t do anything.
2026-09-05 20:35:08
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❤️Gpasgrl1017❤️ :
First right of refusal is better for people who get along a little better- high conflict selfish parents can’t coparent decent enough and it winds up hurting the kids more.
2026-09-05 22:31:55
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Şlaÿ 🎀 :
I’ve been scrolling for days through your videos. You are a saint! It is beyond sad that the boys best interest or happiness is not the priority. We were high conflict until he cried not to go one time, one time! That’s all it took for him to change. Much love and prayers!!
2026-09-05 22:01:12
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Jae-lea Marie :
We had FROR and my ex ignored it, it made zero difference unless he for some reason HAD to tell me, like deployment summer training.
2026-09-05 20:24:09
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PeopleOverProfit100% :
It isn’t enforceable. We never know until after. They do it on purpose to bother us. My kids are at his parents more than with him. ‘Grand parents are important’ so are fathers! He should parent! Yet here we are and my kids are old enough to know now.
2026-09-05 21:28:00
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prairie.rattlr :
It just seems like so much MORE work for them.. to refuse things.. then just let them be...😬 This is intentional. They want a reaction out you and yours. I agree to NOT give it to them. Kelsie.. ur in a tough situation..and ur choosing to make it work..anyways.. I am soooo flippin proud of you!
2026-09-05 21:18:27
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