Aj Saxsma
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whatuwant69420 :
Bad things aren’t temporary for everyone.
2026-09-06 04:53:19
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shadowrosepoet :
I work in funeral adjacent circumstances, and we recently had a wife like this- she didn't want to consider hospice or think about future tragedy. Her husband passed less than a week after she had that convo. It is incredibly realistic for people to try and turn away from tragedy. 😞
2026-09-05 21:44:20
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unbudgingspammin :
well I'm sad now, i had to be the one to decide to take my dad off of life support while mom and sister came to terms with him never recovering
2026-09-05 20:40:59
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dwanaesq :
Well i understand her mindset and still resent her.
2026-09-06 02:25:00
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Daniella :
Abelism is so sadly limiting. Disability and change comes for us all unless we die unexpectedly young.
2026-09-06 05:39:00
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Eles :
he was thinking of his comfort, and she was focused on her own.
2026-09-06 20:37:55
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One PieceIsPOLITICAL :
HAH! I remember your face! I didnt fall for it!
2026-09-05 20:11:06
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Chaz :
Thank you for not assuming that I want to read unrealistic relationships.🥰🥰🥰
2026-09-05 19:59:27
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itrfjie756 :
This is how my wife operates. It was fine in our 20s, but as we get older it’s more concerning. I plan for the worst, hope for the best. For her, there’s nothing but normal - at all costs.
2026-09-07 04:20:30
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cauli :
it is still selfish
2026-09-10 05:23:52
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Brian bushway :
I own a home service based business and I hear from widows all the time that they don’t know how to do something simple like turn off the water because their husband did that. It’s a hard pill to swallow knowing that she lost the person she relied on for some very basic tasks and now she has to learn.
2026-09-06 08:43:42
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Leihla :
i love how you explain about writing by drawing us in on a story. I always forget that there will be a lesson in the end!
2026-09-06 11:27:06
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KJME :
I don’t know how, you hear the circumstances and not understand her behavior from the beginning.
2026-09-06 03:32:39
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Andrés Enrique :
wow. This was the first writing tip that when I got to the end of the video I truly thought; "Yes this is helpful this makes sense and I know how to implement it." Thank you!
2026-09-06 02:50:01
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CurioCuriosa :
So many people prefer to live in the soft delusion than exist in the sharp reality that gives at best a bittersweet present. A present that has no future, or hope without caveat. That saying pounding in the back of their mind, "At least something is better than nothing," pining for the days when life was more 'something' than 'nothing'. More than just a slow shuffle to a steep decline and sudden end. When they had the unacknowledged privilege to plan for a pleasant future. It feels so unfair to have to prepare to replace the feeling of wanting happiness for one of grief and consolation where the best you can hope for is to be at peace with tragedy...
2026-09-06 01:46:03
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Karah Morgan :
never heard of you but now I need to read one of your books ASAP based on this video
2026-09-06 03:07:19
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Grace McCluskey143 :
It’s like writing the plot of the relationships and behaviors like a mystery. Good advice!
2026-09-06 01:54:45
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Princessa OG🦋✨ :
soo, erm - it’s like you gotta be a qualified therapist atp to be such a great writer (with these anecdotes)😪 you’re very talented😮💨
2026-09-05 22:30:19
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Kim :
I might be too autistic for this, I don't see how this worldview softens the behaviors in any way (or is at all surprising given the behaviors).
2026-09-06 18:16:28
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Lovelace anti-Author[ity] :
Similar view to my writing. I want to invite people into the messy chaotic that are people and their thoughts. not always clean fixes or rational decisions. sometimes decisions are made at inappropriate times. or even made without forethought or insight. the characters aren't carefully constructed or crafted and you have to look at their point of view to understand what we see as mess is organized in them
2026-09-06 18:59:22
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anita :
I love this.
2026-09-06 05:54:35
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Be_The_Light :
My dad is 90 and my mom 86. They seem to think they'll never💀 and won't make any plans. I'm the only kid in state. If something happens I DON'T KNOW WHAT TF TO DO!
2026-09-06 04:20:33
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AsparagusDaily :
I feel like this isn't a belief that bad things are temporary, but that Very Bad Things Don't Happen To Me. We all have this to some degree, nobody expects to be an amputee or have a brain injury change their life. But some people REALLY have it and they are in complete song utter shock and disbelief when it happens and have a very protracted denial and anger period.
2026-09-07 14:58:29
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✨Cat✨ (Taylor’s Version) :
I learned very early in life that nothing ever stays the same. Even if the physical pain and conditions are temporary, the mental will be changed forever. When something bad happens, nothing will ever be the same again. Maybe you don’t ever make it back up the stairs. Maybe you do. If you do, you will always expect a day where you fall down them. You’ll fear it. You changed. You will never be the same. I’m glad I learned that young.
2026-09-06 06:56:41
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Meg :
I think it can be really hard to understand other people’s mindsets but also really important to be exposed to it. My dad died when I was 19, and it was kind of the opposite, where my mom and I just really wanted him to be comfortable and make the most of the time he had left and he really just wanted to fight against being sick. We never argued with him, because, well we weren’t the ones dying, but it did make it harder when he was gone, because he hadn’t really prepared for it. It also made me sad because I was at college, and I had made a group of friends who also all had their dads die when we were roughly in our teens, and almost all of their dads had done like, notes or letters or videos for them to open on certain special occasions, and mine had not. So they’d all get envelopes to open with a letter from their dads on their birthday, or he had prepaid to have a florist send a bouquet from him when they graduated, and mine did not. It made me really sad to know that that was it. I’m not getting anything from him ever again. But I also had to realize that his mindset was just never allowing him to do that. He could not face death and that’s just how he was. I’m not mad at him for not being able to anymore, but it still makes me sad
2026-09-08 14:54:19
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