@rewirewithrach: Your feelings aren’t fake. But the meaning you assign to them can shift depending on whether you feel connected, threatened, or safely detached. When you feel calm, distance can seem like proof that you don’t need them. When you feel abandoned, the same relationship can suddenly feel urgent and impossible to let go of. Neither state gives you the full picture. So before you turn “I feel calmer alone” into “I don’t love them,” or “I can’t stop thinking about them” into “they must be the one,” pause and ask: Did the relationship really change or did my nervous system state change? That question creates space between the feeling and the conclusion. And that space is where secure attachment starts to grow. If you’re ready to move beyond understanding your attachment patterns and start building secure ones, check the LINK IN BIO for ways to work with me #attachmentstyle #relationshiptok #Love #rewirewithrach #fypシ

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M33na :

why don't they want to speak to you on the phone. mine communicates via txt message but has not spoken to me over the phone since June 🫣🤔 and everytime I ask for a call he makes an excuse

2026-09-07 19:06:56

✨ Inha ✨ :

Finally a video about this. thanks. I AM more leaning to Avoidant however when i know a distance Will happen i start being anxious, then when it happens i feel relieve and start pulling away. Same when i Pull away and break up, if too much time passes without reaching out i start feeling disconected although i still love. i can be loving him years and not reach out cause it feels safer and cause i just cant reach out (fear of rejection) so i can going on with my live without talking again and ignore my feelings but if they contact me, all The love hits at once.

2026-09-15 21:30:05

H :

My ex thought this we ended up getting divorced but he couldn’t explain this to his family or friends bc he had no problem missing them or calling them. I wish more people had this awareness. Now he’s courting some other girl w my precious gifts and he’s also Audhd on top but when I would leave he wouldn’t understand why he didn’t miss me

2026-09-10 14:44:07

That girl :

I understand my DA because I was a FA…but he’s 100x worse and not healing. It’s exhausting. Had to remove myself from the cycle & loop. I was understanding & patient too long. 😮‍💨😩

2026-09-09 22:23:03

Ash :

it's hell..

2026-09-08 14:23:43

B⃣ R⃣ E⃣ E⃣ :

Yes, we spoke about marriage and then we argued and then he went to work(fifo) and he broke up with me??? He’s a FA

2026-09-15 11:15:58

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