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ddnick :
'but...but .my friend's an introvert and won't like this' 🙃 Then these suggestions aren't for you and your friend. read the room and do what works for your relationship
2026-09-08 20:14:51
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invisibleactsoflove :
A plan + consent = friendship. Telling somebody “I’m bringing food, don’t cook” puts me in the awkward position of having to say “No, I’d rather you didn’t.” It’s usually done by people who wish they could design a superhero costume for themselves and see me as a prop in their fantasy.
2026-09-08 19:56:06
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Bec Sh :
💯 ‘Let me know if I can help’ is just adding to my mental load. Now I have to add your request to my todo list.
2026-09-09 03:37:01
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MyCuteCat :
This is such a good demonstration of how to put care into action! “Please tell me how I can help” is love, but people struggling may not be able to identify what of their needs you are able to meet or when
2026-09-08 14:28:10
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✭٭Mochi٭✭ :
my bestie was grieving her aunt last year and she didn't have the energy to prepare herself food because grief is a bitch. we were in school, so I would always prepare food for the both of us plus bring a little Tupper with food so she could have dinner to take home and eat during the night. I love my bestie
2026-09-11 15:16:54
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rain :
I hate the "let me know if you need anything text". most of these people would never show up if you actually asked for help
2026-09-09 06:02:34
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_ashhhkb :
The fact that this has to be taught because people aren’t just naturally like this smh ..
2026-09-11 12:48:07
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KP :
Thank you for this, actually. I desperately want to be a helpful friend, but I struggle with the balance of help and coming across pushy or invasive.
2026-09-08 17:39:15
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Joe :
When my wife was going through chemo and we had a baby, my friend never asked if we needed help; he asked us when would be a good time to bring dinner. I'll never forget that.
2026-09-08 23:35:04
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caro 🍓🐯 :
What if we are long distance :(
2026-09-11 16:57:22
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Miss 💖 :
This is so good
2026-09-10 00:21:42
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kuwangelica :
if only
2026-09-11 04:57:33
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S4GU4R0.wtf :
Call me crazy but only one of these is actually an example of care. I think we’ve distorted its meaning by treating it as synonymous with “thinking sympathetically.”
2026-09-09 00:59:50
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MurrupukArt :
I feel silly for saying this, but I’m autistic, and I don’t know if you realise how much this opened my eyes and has helped my understanding. Thank you, I’m glad you came across my fyp
2026-09-09 05:33:06
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REBEKAH COMPTON :
When my mom died, our family friend called my dad & said she can cook, clean, do laundry & she was off that Thursday & Friday & would be there each day at 8:00 AM. She did just that, & man, was it so meaningful to us
2026-09-08 20:24:02
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Apricity :
Just send care plus an e gift card for them to order a meal and it will be food they actually like and are in the mood for when they decide they need it most.
2026-09-08 23:20:43
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denasta :
this has put in to words why I never really feel supported in friend groups. They only express sympathies, which yes, is nice but I don't have family. I don't have a support system and the only thing that makes me feel truly cared for is effort
2026-09-08 22:35:16
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georgia18114 :
The best texts I received in a moment of struggling was “hey I’m here. No need to respond, just know I’m here”. That made me feel so much less alone.
2026-09-08 22:54:54
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Calamity_Caroline :
This really landed with me when my MIL died. The people who connected with a plan and helped and didn’t make us reach out and ask and do the work were a god send. Now I’m more intentional when a friend is going through it.
2026-09-08 17:16:38
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Reese | Yellowjackets Blog :
Speaking as a chronically ill person, you do not have to spend money to be a good friend either, especially not in this economy! Sure bringing me dinner is a huge help when I’m recovering from surgery or hospitalisation, but so is offering to pick up food or medication (with money I transfer to you), doing a load of laundry for me, or literally just coming around and watching a movie while I’m housebound and stir crazy. Your time means just as much
2026-09-09 10:00:25
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Anthony Tan :
Someone kinda did example 4 for me. I wanted to say no but it's too late. I told them to never do that again—that I would have appreciated it on a different day and different circumstances because I was not in the mood for social interactions; I didn't appreciate it the day they chose to do it. I do appreciate the gesture and I believe they were coming from a place of love and care and I've tried to express as much BUT for me, example 3 is the best because it gives us a sense of agency.
2026-09-09 18:03:33
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Lucrative Lu :
I see where I’ve been messing up, I wait on yes
2026-09-08 15:24:05
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jordan :
reminds me of this one post from an aunt, it was a text to her adult nephew and she was like “hey heard about your upcoming move! how can i best support you?” and then gave three choices like “actively help with logistics” “check in on you” “keep you in my thoughts and wait for you to come to me” and i thought that was great
2026-09-08 19:56:27
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Jay is Learning :
my pro tip is rotisserie chickens. there a has not been a single time I have shown up and left a rotisserie chicken at someone's door with a note that says something like "don't forget to eat. we love you" where that action hasn't been received with (positive) years. Just make sure you text them or something so they know about the chicken 😅
2026-09-08 15:51:05
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