Hehe. He paid for the first and second date. At the end of the second date he told me he needed to tighten up on his budget. Third meetup, I paid for it. Fourth meetup, I paid for my own coffee. He didn’t even flinch and little did he know at that moment I was already planning my exit. He doesn’t have to be rich but this definitely took me out of my feminine energy. I’m in my mid-40’s, own my home and pay my bills - I want someone that doesn’t have to budget buying me an iced coffee.
2026-09-08 20:58:43
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Saladrollss :
He’s paid for all the dates and anything more expensive, I’ve paid for smaller things like a coffee, a cheap bottle of wine etc. I think it’s nice to show small appreciations when they’re taking you consistently on nice dates.
2026-09-08 15:43:06
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The Girl On Fire :
Also not all men with money have provider mindset
2026-09-08 15:48:21
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Syyyd :
My man has told me “I pay for things. You show up and enjoy yourself”. I’ve spent $7 in 8 months because I surprised him with kettle corn because he’s never had it…he tried to leave me $10 on my dresser 😂😂 never had someone who desires taking care of me and I love it.
2026-09-08 16:42:21
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Viktoriya :
Men who don’t want to pay are not developed into masculinity and they probably don’t really like you. My first boyfriend who was 19 treated me the best. Payed for everything. Even wanted to pay when we broke up 😆 he was Italian
2026-09-09 14:09:04
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sugarplum🧚♀️🩰 :
What if he’s paid for everything, you offer once, and he says yes?
2026-09-09 20:33:28
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Rooted Connection Counseling :
From a relationship perspective, I think it’s interesting that we sometimes expect a partner to provide a high level of emotional, financial, or practical investment before the relationship has had the opportunity to build what actually makes that investment sustainable: trust, consistency, emotional safety, reliability, and friendship.
2026-09-09 15:12:27
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ashleyinmanitoba 🇨🇦 :
He needs to be a generous man in his way of being. Even if he can’t afford everything for you a generous man has the mindset and values you want.
2026-09-10 00:31:09
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EmpressMareV :
“Any man who is a man worth being with.”
2026-09-11 19:50:28
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Amara :
Niko, I can’t find a horse who even wants to join the damn race
2026-09-08 15:43:12
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101errorbitch :
I pay the small silly bills, he pays the big shit AND my name is on everything. Period.
2026-10-09 21:46:41
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user5684584888414 :
Your skin is perfect
2026-09-09 01:21:00
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Rosie Reads 📚🐦⬛🌦 :
well you say "right now" isnt that just falling for potential? even in your 30s?
2026-09-10 01:01:06
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Lori Moore :
💯💯💯💯💯
2026-09-16 04:34:32
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Labonee Chatterjee :
They only do that much until you get intimate. After that all efforts are gone. No planning dates only coming over. If you say no, then he doesn’t plan anymore no more communication. Done
2026-09-08 15:22:53
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miranda.UrbanGwichin :
Oh Niko I really appreciate your opinion. I gave my guy another chance and it’s different this time. Money is an issue this go around but I’m willing to encourage him to grow❤️🧡💜
2026-09-10 14:15:54
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Keisha💖✨️🧚♀️ :
You had me at the first sentence
2026-09-08 17:22:24
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Miss p 💕 :
It all about the mindset 👌🏾👌🏾
2026-09-08 17:07:03
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steph1970 :
Right. It totally depends on age and where you are in your career.
2026-09-09 02:06:21
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Wendy A. :
He pays for most/big stuff but he loves when I pay for the small stuff willingly. He has said that he has felt taken advantage of in the past & me doing the lil things mean so much to him
2026-09-10 21:01:21
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Deltababe :
My man literally desires to consistently pay and take care of me. I never ever ask he just wants to.
2026-09-19 18:09:06
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Lisa Ondgren :
I feel like I seem like I’m using him if I let him pay for everything
2026-09-11 03:35:34
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dakota_bmx :
my ex for 6 years barely paid for me 💀 And the last 2-3 years i was emotionally abused . i stayed cause i was scared to start over 🥲
2026-09-10 21:25:09
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lowkeyblur24 :
First
2026-09-08 14:49:56
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mellythegoldenretrievermom :
I believe everything should go half and half I mean if one day he can't pay or provide for you would you leave him that's where you step up and show him he is not alone
2026-09-08 15:07:35
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