@abbyeckel: Teach boys to care. Teach boys friendship. Teach boys empathy. Teach them decenter themselves. Teach them love and compassion. Teach them to anticipate. We so often think of boys still as “set it and forget it” and that’s exactly why men are so lonely. Because they were never given the tools to form genuine, deep friendships. They’re not taught to ask questions, they’re taught to center themselves and talk over each other in order to feel heard. Don’t do your boys a disservice by not teaching them the importance of caring about other people. That’s community. #raisingboys #momtoboys #boymom

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short_ee_me
Lara :
If men don't know men, how can they claim their friends aren't bad men?
2026-09-08 21:52:19
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ghost_jme
GhostJ :
My 9 year old son told me he liked a girl. I looked at him and said “what color are her eyes”. He didn’t know—I explained that in order to like someone you have to notice them. Know what they like and dislike. Now when he tells me he likes are girl he gives me her name, eye color, her likes and dislikes and then explains what he likes about her “she is so funny and smart and she is so good at playing football at recess”. Proud mama.
2026-09-09 00:01:22
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sandwich3195
sandwich3195 :
Women were NOT taught to do that either.
2026-09-09 00:49:11
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xennybeebz
Xen :
Men not knowing men is why communities protect predators before they protect victims.
2026-09-09 10:19:00
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twistedelegance7
TwistedElegance :
I was never taught that it just came naturally
2026-09-08 21:53:16
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lisa.love.2.0
Lisa :
No one taught me or my female peers exactly what questions to ask and to ask follow up questions. We were NATURALLY CURIOUS and INTERESTED in others. Teach your kids to be CURIOUS and INTERESTED in other people, all genders.
2026-09-09 00:51:12
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theindigocherry
theindigocherry :
No. Saying they weren't taught how to do it takes the onus of responsibility off them and that's BS. They're adults. I wasn't taught to do the vast majority of the things I now do as an adult but I figured it out. I took responsibility and learned. They could but they choose not to and I'm tired of society making excuses for them.
2026-09-10 01:05:54
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nw0123456789
MeMyself&I :
They weren’t taught? Their mother models it for them every day. They can’t be bothered.
2026-09-09 11:18:42
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mojojojo5551
Mojojojo5551 :
Hot take: this is also why men put so much emotional labor on women. They dont have other healthy emotional outlets and expect their wives to run the family AND meet their mental needs
2026-09-09 02:21:28
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shelle_yeah
Shelle_Yeah :
I would actually be really hurt if I went through a life changing break up and was heartbroken and my friends laughed in my face and didn't even remember his name or take it serious....thats sad
2026-09-09 05:21:01
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femboyfriday06
Catboygoy :
THIS is a THEM thing men or women after a certain amount of time you should know better women tend to talk more about the nitty gritty but not knowing your friends is on you and it shows that your friends from proximity and not that you actually are friends
2026-09-10 02:04:07
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kdchronos7
kdchronos7 :
People that don't know anything about your life are not friends. Just because you hang out with people does not make them your friends. Friends care
2026-09-09 20:30:50
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vftm12
vftm11 :
“Don’t ask her name 🙄” whatttttt
2026-09-08 21:47:52
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sunshineraatz
☀️sunshine☀️ :
THISSSSSS
2026-09-10 01:33:59
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iamdb678
IamDB :
I was not TAUGHT to be a human. Good god.
2026-09-09 15:13:30
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windykitkatcdn
windykitkat 🇨🇦 :
Marcello Hernandez from SNL has a stand up comedy bit about how the ugly guy gets the hot girl because not only does he ask her questions, he asks follow up questions.
2026-09-09 04:25:09
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sunnyleeharrison
Sunny-Lee Harrison 🇨🇦🐺🐠⭐️ :
Yup. I remember near all of the details
2026-09-10 00:57:19
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jaytf23
Explore with Jay :
Ok you’re right but that was hilarious. Buddy was laughing before dude even finished asking the question. Didn’t even know why he moved 😂😂😂
2026-09-10 00:38:58
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whythatguynope
why that guy :
why have a son when abortions are legal?
2026-09-09 14:33:05
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tina.d_8696
Tina :
It’s also why they always say “Not all men are bad.” They don’t fucking know anything about each other to even know if their buddy is a rapist or a beater!
2026-09-09 00:01:10
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striderofheart
Koda! :
i was raised as a girl and i don’t think i was ever taught this. why does it come naturally to girls to be curious about those we like, but not boys who seem to not give a shit at any age?
2026-09-09 02:53:01
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big_eyes.big_cries
𝓡𝓲 :
they don't know eachother YET theyre quick as f×ck to say that guys a good guy he couldnt have possibly s/aed someone.. make it make sense
2026-09-08 23:10:39
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iamsuperrandom
Aly :
I never had to be taught to how to care about people’s interests… if you care about somebody, that’s just innate…
2026-09-09 06:57:41
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y2kbratbarbiee
y2kbratbarbiee :
I don’t think girls are taught this either. It comes naturally to people who are just generally willing to listen and understand others.
2026-09-09 02:44:17
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brxxylx
Brxxylx :
I can name my friends exes Ive never even met
2026-09-09 20:41:30
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