@monicaumunna: When your husband finally finds the courage to tell you what’s on his heart, you have to be able to listen without immediately defending yourself, bringing up what he did, or turning the conversation back onto you... Because if someone has spent years feeling unheard, you can’t rebuild that trust with one conversation. You rebuild it through consistent action 🙏🏼 You listen. You let him finish. You regulate your emotions. You stop moving the goalposts. You stop making every conversation about what you need to say. And yes, sometimes you have to bite your tongue 🤪 Not because your feelings don’t matter, but because this conversation isn’t about you. There will be a time to have your conversation. Initiate it. Tell him what hurt you. Ask for accountability. But when your husband is finally opening up to you, let him have the whole conversation!!! 🫡 And when he’s finished: “I hear you.”🙏🏼 “I’m sorry.” 🫶🏼 “This is how I’m going to change.”🫡 Then let your actions prove that you meant it. Because when you’ve spent years being an unsafe place for someone to be vulnerable, you don’t get to demand trust back. You have to rebuild it ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 Also please ignore my voice, I am fighting a cold 😮‍💨

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richboberg
Zweck :
Don’t do it, gents.
2026-09-09 07:21:05
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wheels353
wheels :
I did it once in a relationship. It will never happen again.
2026-09-09 01:41:19
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jacobbenoy3
TimoBoyo :
Fellow guys, I understand the hesitation to open up. When I opened up to my ex, she either got defensive and turned it on me, or got upset and made it so I was comforting her. I’m taking the steps to open up in my new relationship and while it’s hard, it’s freeing to be with someone who actually supports and cares about your emotions. I was able to open up to my partner about being sexually taken advantage of in my last relationship and she was nothing but kind and loving. It’s hard, but worth it
2026-09-09 04:28:14
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paul_e_t
Paul_E_T :
Do you find your content is getting to women or men?
2026-09-09 13:43:27
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billtheconquerer
Bill The Conquerer :
I get treated like an employee when I talk about important things. I literally have to get mad for her to shut up and actually hear what I'm saying. It's exhausting.
2026-09-09 05:59:59
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midwestlefty12
midwestlefty12 :
That kind of growth is very hard and very rare.
2026-09-11 00:47:11
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user946821649
Bruiser Brodeeee :
Women like the idea of their husband opening but women don’t like their husband opening up.
2026-09-09 17:29:43
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josephdonahue3
Joseph Donahue :
I opened up to my wife once…..been with her 20 years….her reaction was upset that i told her truth about something that made zero sense y she even got upset and i told her to her face right away “ill never tell u anything important to me ever again” and i havent. And she sometimes acts like she wants me to open up to her and when she does i getup and walk out the house and leave for awhile. Nope Not happening unless we have a counseler present.
2026-09-09 04:14:39
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first2theegg
Zap Brannigan :
I opened up to an ex about my struggles with mental health and wanting to off myself in the past. Instead of a discussion about it we talked about how that made her feel.
2026-09-09 13:48:58
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the_septic_tank
Steve Mitchell :
this is on the wrong fyp
2026-09-10 13:57:38
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bearlytogether
Joe :
this is why i hate the claim that men aren't emotionally intelligent. we are. but our partners aren't capable of receiving our emotions
2026-09-10 14:44:42
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thatoneguy2022a
heretosurf :
Admiral Ackbar said it best.
2026-09-09 12:16:06
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johnc287
John C :
Yep 100% not safe. Really hurts to know she does not care about things that are important to me. Then uses against me later.
2026-09-09 02:13:36
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agent_0521
agent_0521 :
In the words of my wife, I’m the “engine that makes this family work”. Engines don’t have feelings.
2026-09-11 14:19:34
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stephenwilliams338
stephenwilliams338🇨🇦 :
No win ever for a man to ipen up.
2026-09-09 04:13:40
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twez2020
twez :
I’ve never not had it used against me
2026-09-09 04:27:02
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packetst0rm
packetst0rm :
Can't think of one time that I've opened up, and it's not been about my other half by the end of it. Now if I do anything, it will be crafted for minimal fall out. Just writing this makes me quite sad.
2026-09-09 10:16:17
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ps578237
PS :
Almost I dare say all men fall in this category
2026-09-10 17:08:16
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kokothehealthcoach
Koko :
So good!!
2026-09-11 02:00:31
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simon_surprenant
🇨🇦SimonTheWolf🇨🇦 :
Never again will I open up on anything...
2026-09-10 09:16:38
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unoriginalpenname
unoriginalpenname :
I’ve told my wife several times that I don’t feel safe to bring up to her. And she made it seem like it’s my problem…
2026-09-20 05:06:46
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yepthatguy
Yepthatguy :
A large thing you are missing is that often if men open up that will later be used against them in a fight or as a reason they lost respect for the man. Once that happens a time or two do you think most will try it again?
2026-09-12 04:20:59
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cory_lwnj
Cory (LWNJ) :
It took over 30 years for me to finally stop opening up to my wife. I don’t have another 30 years to wait for her to learn to be a safe space and prove it through action over and over again
2026-09-09 07:32:08
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7hillskelly
7HillsKelly :
Two years ago I did it, NEVER again!! Spoiler alert, they really don’t want to hear it anyways!!
2026-09-09 12:57:45
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reedstrength
Eric :
It’s not worth it. Figure it out sitting in the car for 10mins before going in.
2026-09-09 18:45:40
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