@thegoodtherapy: I need to work on myself' hits different when the thing you're working on is never being close enough to feel anything. #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyle #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #healingisntleaving
You’re right, and looking inward about it is. I am afraid to hurt and disappoint the one I love and care about. That fear leads to my avoidance and that avoidance brings the so called peace because it’s familiar, the discomfort is going through something I don’t know, the uncertainty does not feel good and that’s important for growth. It’s hard to not know what to do and stay grounded in those uncomfortable moments, which can easily lead to shutting down and removing yourself emotionally even if you’re physically present. I wish I got couples counseling for these moments.
2026-10-09 05:52:29
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tommills957 :
beautiful lady
2026-10-09 17:09:27
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C Nolan :
I've been single for almost 3 years, I started running for peace and found the peace in pain, I was with my ex since, I was 18 I'm almost 40 now but you're definitely right 💯 have a blessed day sweetie
2026-09-10 03:15:00
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Patrick N :
I have been single for over a year and started therapy in February and it has helped so much. Putting in the work being single is HARD that is for sure. Also finding a secure attachment style has been difficult for me but keep moving forward every day.
2026-09-11 20:13:58
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GregG :
Should be the invitation, but there’s a few variables that either encourage or discourage the inner-work. Ex. Who presented the growth item? If it’s the partner & the relationship isn’t as healthy and coming from a good place, it could be received as a call out and the person is less motivated to address, in fact may dig in deeper and then the tally of faults between each other can come or emotional withdrawal & actual distance will hurt everyone. Divorced after wife had affair, but I still have done coaching sessions to identify what I need to improve as a person, then as a partner all while alone. After you see and appreciate the progress over perfection within ourselves I think it’s then less challenging to want & expect it from others. Maybe…
2026-10-01 21:50:10
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“James”🍷🥂🍾 :
Avoiding the issues, never resolved the problems, no matter how severe or how small
2026-09-10 04:20:52
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tacos_seven :
Being sober for 7 years, I’m programmed to identify my parts in any conflict and break it all down - like I’m so comfy I’ll race you there. I’ve seen it invite laziness from women who showed up day 1 with a solid accountability game.
2026-09-10 08:30:30
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GoodVibes :
Awareness comes out of relationships and growth and learning happens in the relationship! 💯
2026-09-20 02:26:27
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chandler :
Your an amazing person
2026-10-03 22:39:03
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chickendrip5 :
Taking any new clients ?
2026-10-02 23:27:49
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abbeytheblacklab :
Why get into a relationship if you don’t want to do the work
2026-09-12 02:23:31
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tacoinvaderhi :
Very true . 100% got to face it and find the medium or the balance
2026-09-10 09:03:49
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Albert M Creamer Jr. :
Hi I'm Albert, Nice to meet you! I enjoy looking at your videos! I've been single way too long but you make sense on this video!
2026-09-10 03:59:16
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Robert Slate :
I got in the best shape of my life being single I found being with someone just causes problems plus your happiness doesn't come from the outer environment.
2026-09-24 09:26:24
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Danny :
Love this!!
2026-10-03 00:27:06
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Tim Floyd :
Yes!!
2026-10-01 11:41:19
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No pancakes??? :
Agreed, it works. 🤩
2026-09-13 04:42:15
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terry4353 :
true
2026-09-10 18:07:57
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rudy :
Well put
2026-09-11 17:21:00
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Eloy Salazar35 :
Well said
2026-09-10 13:25:49
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Gabe :
oh brother
2026-09-10 14:12:41
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bubba :
good evening sexy
2026-09-10 22:20:19
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C Nolan :
🙏🙏🙏
2026-09-10 03:12:57
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Panda_143 :
💯
2026-10-01 17:36:47
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jimijo :
💙💙💙
2026-09-10 14:22:41
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