@dr_mikem: Every fall, it starts. Parents come into my office, worried, sometimes in tears, because the school has told them something is wrong with their son. He can’t still. He won’t stay in his seat. He’s too much. And I have to tell them what I want to tell you: your son is not broken. Somewhere along the way, we built classrooms that ask young boys to sit quietly for long stretches, and then labeled them when they couldn’t. Needing to move, fidget, or release energy isn’t a disorder. For many boys, it’s simply development. It’s biology. It’s being a five, six, or seven year-old boy. That doesn’t mean we ignore real concerns because some kids do need support and that’s fine. But before we decide, something is wrong with a boy for acting like a boy, we owe it to him to ask whether the environment is a mismatch, not the child. Our boys, now more than ever, need to be understood. Follow along, and share this with every mom of boys who needs to hear this today and drop a 💙 if this lands.

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godfange
Angie Godfrey :
K-3 principal- when boys get sent to my office… I have a box of squishy toys and we go in the hallway and throw them at the walls as hard as we can. Sometimes helps w girls… always helps w boys.
2026-09-11 12:52:26
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katlandia96
Katelyn :
As a mom of 3 boys, you just gotta let them run wild like free range chickens outside first thing in the morning lol
2026-09-11 13:08:49
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user8732972574874
Anne :
One problem could be schools have cut back on recess and PE.
2026-09-11 13:44:48
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strbshrtcake
Shortcake :
yes! just got a Vanderbilt form sent home with my 5 year old. granted two out of my 3 are diagnosed with ADHD but is it that or just an active little boy?
2026-09-29 16:21:03
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flynnsey
Flynnsey :
As a Mom of two boys, this makes me cry. I hate feeling like my son’s “wild nature” is bad. Thank you for understanding
2026-09-11 13:43:26
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meliemac
melimac :
Elementary admin here! Wiggly, off task, wanting to move, getting up and other age appropriate behaviors (girls too) don’t concern me. Eloping, tossing classrooms, hitting, biting, turning over tables and chairs… I’m concerned. We have more of the later than ever!
2026-09-12 03:48:46
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sparklepants721
Kelsie,Sparkles :
Yes I have been dealing with this at daycare 😞
2026-09-29 19:34:36
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mullazey
MullazeyAlex :
All I have to say is thank you for this one
2026-09-28 07:50:26
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raynebubble
raynebubble :
Because kids aren’t meant to be sheep and programmed into a school system and sit all day or most the day kids need to be kids not in school and trained where half of that stuff they don’t need for their life it’s a free daycare suited to help working parents basically
2026-09-29 18:14:29
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jari2993
Jaritza 👑✝️🙌🏽🌻 :
Thank you❤️- boy mom
2026-09-29 13:01:18
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danielle__lee
Danielle :
The system is broken. No kid should be in school 7/8 hours a day
2026-09-12 22:02:14
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katieriess
Katie Riess :
As a teacher, I agree, they need to bring back more play in early elementary!
2026-09-11 12:50:33
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virgo929292
Kate :
On a different side of the same coin, we also have to be mindful of using the term “boys will be boys” for loud and wild behavior. There can’t always be an excuse for that.
2026-09-11 18:14:51
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amymeyer10
Amy Meyer :
THANK YOU!
2026-09-29 19:12:44
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lifewithbritt
BrittBratt :
Just had a teacher call me two weeks ago about my son, not sitting still and paying attention. It was just three weeks into the school year. Just as I have to, he’s adjusting to going back to school. He’s only seven years old.
2026-09-11 14:35:50
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natalie.ann89
Natalie Ann :
My four year old was being sent to the office daily for not sitting to complete his worksheet . Not hurting others, not being disrespectful, not destroying property - he couldn’t sit still to do his worksheets at 4 years old. He hated school and his self esteem took a major hit . New teacher this year and a million times better .
2026-09-11 13:17:21
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krysklm
krysklm :
“He just seems more interested in running around on the playground with friends than sitting and learning how to write letters.” Well, yeah. He’s 4. He’s definitely more interested in running around than sitting and writing.
2026-09-16 18:40:45
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cheryltyler44
Cheryl Tyler :
My boys are now 29, and 19. When my oldest was little my Mom who taught elementary school for 35 years said to me, “don’t ever let anyone tell you he needs to be medicated. He’s a boy. He’s smart, curious and healthy.” 💙
2026-09-13 19:43:52
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heathervarsalona
heathervarsalona :
I was able to homeschool my very high energy son; however my other son was autistic and needed more services than I could provide. He started public school in 4th grade. The one that couldn’t sit still, I literally had to have him run around the block before doing math is getting his PhD in genetics of some sort at VaTech and my son with Autism just graduated from Tulane with a double major. There is nothing wrong with high energy boys or boys with big emotions. They will make it!
2026-09-11 13:44:16
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chris_az480
Chris_az480 :
Scottsdale AZ dad here. My 5yo boy just got “counseled out” of our local private Catholic school kindergarten within 3 weeks. Not one single word of positive feedback. Every single day an email from the teacher about his behavior and inability to sit and be quiet still etc etc the things they said about my son… the disdain and attitude of “he needs ‘help’ that we just can’t give him”. From a Catholic school! So much for Christian compassion and service and patience. Just disgusting shameful people. 1 week in to a highly rated public school nearby and he is thriving. He’s loved, accepted, and appreciated for the wonderful kid he is
2026-09-12 03:35:06
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hayleereyno
Haylee :
My brother was one of these boys who struggled at school. His second grade teacher understood her assignment, though. She told my mom, "Sometimes we need to let the horses run." 👏👏👏😂
2026-09-11 14:40:49
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evelynbr94
Evelyn FNP-S, BSN, RN 🌻 :
my son is 3 almost 4. the amount of times I have been told he has ADHD because he needs contact movement. mind you he is able to focus and read or play with puzzles etc but just needs lots of activity throughout the day and climb the walls. okay so you mean normal almost 4 year old behavior. 🙄😅
2026-09-11 12:47:01
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h2727859
h2727859 :
Doesn’t help that we changed tk and k to a full day , 8 hours of sitting and learning
2026-09-11 14:35:15
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eve_k2047
Eve_K2047 :
My 5 year old is having issues for being disruptive. But he is able to finish legos projects, he needs movement and play time. Kindergarten is switch to more academics
2026-09-11 14:49:25
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darthhippie8
logicalthought420 🇺🇸 :
I homeschool my son and read to him while he does somersaults on my couch 🤷🏼‍♀️
2026-09-12 03:41:42
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