@therealniccoy: I heard about the “Tyranny of the Shoulds” yesterday from my beautiful friend Val Caldwell, and it struck me. How many of us are living under rules we never consciously chose? I should. I should. I should. Maybe it’s time to replace should with choose. ✨ #tyrannyoftheshoulds #psychology #selfsabotage #traumahealing #HealingJourney

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wildcardguy.exe
WildCardGuy :
Because it's a child who once learned that who they were wasn't enough, so they traded self-acceptance for a "search of glory"
2026-09-13 15:50:58
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follow_caren
Caren’s NookBook :
Imagine the Bible has been telling us all this things and we are too proud to read it, on the fear of being accused as religious. It’s not religion, it’s relationship to the one who Created us. You’d be surprised how many life struggles are solved thru it, and its not even condescending. It’s a life manual.
2026-09-14 05:33:15
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deltamoon24
Tenusha :
"according to whom"... that's so deep
2026-09-13 16:51:59
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kitmonchan86
kitmonchan86 :
I regularly say "stop Should-ing yourself" to myself and others. It's difficult to remember it for yourself when you're in it, though... But as a chronically ill person and a recovering people pleaser, this is a big one. Because you spend so long living up to these unwritten standards for yourself in order to be palatable and useful for others, that you even end up doing it to yourself while you're alone; especially if you're trying to rest!
2026-09-13 17:44:28
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cherylmuc
cheryl :
Could instead of should, gives you options.
2026-09-13 21:53:21
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waterdragon541
waterdragon541 :
TOO TRUE
2026-09-14 06:27:25
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poppygarcia74
Michelle Garcia :
Your videos are always fucking me up. 🤣
2026-09-13 16:43:57
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ronaldchibwana395
Ron Chibwana :
hahaha not really everything you want wants you... the universe comes in to make sure that you are ready to hold what you asked for cause the blessings come at a price and it's usually to pass on progress
2026-09-13 20:09:19
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kitsune.mz
Kitsune :
The voice came from my mother.
2026-09-14 05:06:08
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anahemizeni
ヘミゼニ :
this is so interesting
2026-09-13 17:14:36
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the_cosmicgirl
the_cosmicgirl :
Thanks for that!
2026-09-13 20:04:42
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msmam1980
Melinda :
I love your content!
2026-09-13 14:43:37
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richie5093
Richie :
Toxic Shame and Toxic Guilt = Toxic Core Codependency
2026-09-13 14:43:39
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psboisvert
PSBoisvert :
Excellent content.
2026-09-13 15:54:00
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heybabeuwu2
Ando Perez328 :
gracias que bonito me ayudo mucho
2026-09-13 16:39:07
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inanna_flame
InannaFlame :
I needed this!
2026-09-13 21:37:55
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yourbrainsherpa
Your Brain Sherpa :
“Stop shoulding all over yourself” -Tony Robbins
2026-09-13 22:33:54
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findingfreedom434
Amy 🇨🇦 :
Louise Haye says to change should to could bc it takes all the negative connotation out of the word should
2026-09-13 22:44:05
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vcald71
VLCaldwell :
I love our conversations and how they always lead to deeper understanding. Love you my friend 🥰
2026-09-13 17:41:39
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amyistillhere
WanderinandHealin :
oh the shame.. ugh
2026-09-13 14:41:32
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reluctantpsychicmedium
✨The Reluctant Psychic Medium✨ :
I just studied her last week in a psych of personality class. 😅 The phone is listening.
2026-09-14 00:06:09
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leyannelarocque
LeyLa :
yep.. don't "should" on yourself.. 😂
2026-09-13 19:11:12
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janni.di
Janni.Di :
Waaaaooooooooh! I am choosing to get up and at least stretch (I have Fibromyalgia (2001, a car crashed into mine), too much chemo in '19 left a lot of damage (but I'm still here!🙏), inherited depression, anxiety, agoraphobia, etc., since age 3, and was just Dx with ADHD (which REALLY makes sense!). I'm working on C-PTSD, which is what shoulds, oughts, and musts have led to. I suddenly feel like I'm seeing the big picture through the correct lens! It's an amazing feeling, not being trapped. I knew this stuff on paper, but you made it personal and real. Thank you so much! I like your posts because of their insightful advice not too many others give. I appreciate you and your page very much 🙏🏼💜✨️.
2026-09-13 19:44:29
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