@tinkerkellita: Replying to @yosemom1 #scapegoat #control #safety #coercivecontrol #power

Sharon | Saved Not Soft :

This is a good point comparing control for safety versus otherwise!

Theta Mind :

when its very vague, how does one understand whats underneath

IsMyDogInvited :

Ooooof yes, 100% something I struggled with. My M.O. was to try to love someone hard enough that they started acting better, then eventually hating them when they stayed in their own bad patterns and didn't become better/kinder/safer because I loved them and tried to cheer them out of it.

YoseMom :

Thank you

AntiNarc2.0 :

Well, power is about safety too. They avoid shame, failure, feeling inadequate. So it’s the same underlying feeling with different behaviors that are environmentally generated in childhood. The why is less relevant than letting go of the underlying feeling. “I’m not enough”

Nana :

Wow - i Like your Reflexion an thoughts. It helps and gives claryti. Thanks

Michi :

oof... I am this...

Fadia Abu Samra :

ja. trauma response.

No bloody name :

Yup

Ruth 🙏🏼⚔️🛡️🪽🥾 :

💯💯

sassytaffy1🐞 :

Steven Cocks :

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Kerry D 🇨🇦 :

❤️❤️❤️

SheShe :

💯

solfege :

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