Dr. Becky | Psychologist
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Andrea ❤️👍🤣🐶 :
Is it too late to help my 17 year old?
2026-11-06 13:03:31
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Lisa Bennett Smith :
Any advice for an adhd child who has very strong opinions/feelings and tends to stay stuck?
2026-09-17 15:05:13
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Laurie :
But what if your decision isn’t inherently the “right” one? What if your kids have a point? They never asked to be born, so shouldn’t you at least grant them the sovereignty to govern their own lives, regardless of the risk involved? “You don’t have to like it, and it’s happening anyway” implies that somehow you as the parent are in the right
2026-09-15 01:02:59
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Hayley :
I want to add that it's not always WHAT you say but HOW you say it. Tone conveys a lot and the tone she uses in these words examples is neutral and matter of fact instead of punitive or dismissive.
2026-09-14 18:34:17
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Zipzapzop :
I think part of the issue here is that many of us grew up with parents that didn't care about our feelings at all, like ever, and made lots of decisions that impacted us very negatively. The over correction is an effort to make sure our kids feel loved and valued. I see what you're trying to say here (and I absolutely do impose rules and boundaries) but I think there's a balance of letting kids give their opinions about something, considering them and then maybe course correcting? Like there's a balance between allowing some autonomy with limits?
2026-09-18 13:13:28
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ccblank0 :
No! “I wasn’t asking you, I was telling you. Please go do it.”
2026-09-18 15:37:29
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CandyCakes 💜 :
My favorite phrase currently is “I’ve given you an answer.” Been consistently saying this over the past year & my kids might not like it but they don’t try to persuade me anymore the second they hear this.
2026-09-18 18:11:06
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SpencerMillanArt :
oh I feel so much better. I do say 'im done talking about this anymore' ... but i question whether its a good move! Will be using the others too.
2026-09-14 21:18:16
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Ali Black :
We are big on “I’ve already answered that question”. My toddler is in her why phase, which is normally fine! But she has started asking “but why” over and over again when she doesn’t get her way. So after an explanation or two, I simply tell her that I’ve already answered that question.
2026-09-19 23:16:40
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Amy McCalley :
As a teacher, I often say “you’ve asked, I’ve answered” when I get the same question asked hoping for a different answer. I’m sure they do this at home too!
2026-10-15 17:33:41
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Jenn Tervo | lost 150 lbs :
the OVER EXPLAINING!! unnecessary. 👏
2026-09-23 16:43:52
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Penny :
Asked and answered is my new favorite response
2026-09-14 20:48:15
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Nae :
I use these and people think I disregard my children's feelings 😅 they can feel, but now isn't the time, and it's already done.
2026-09-24 22:08:19
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Debbie Raphael, M.D. :
I agree- warmth and limits is what we want for them, and for ourselves as well. We all deserve and need them.
2026-09-18 19:09:53
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misskate1983 :
Preach girl!!!!!
2026-10-11 13:29:12
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Hansolo :
What should happen when the child pushes back so much that you can’t physically force them to do something? Just asking as a girlfriend of someone with two kids
2026-10-09 13:59:10
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Tyler :
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
2026-09-16 12:40:35
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Dr. Leslie :
Love it!!
2026-09-17 01:20:07
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Adrisauruss🍓 :
Absolutely
2026-09-17 16:57:08
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GJ22 :
Yes!!
2026-10-10 15:27:23
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Adam’s mom :
YES!!!!!
2026-09-19 14:45:03
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chiefsfan20252025 :
Say it LOUDER for the people in the back!!!
2026-09-19 12:53:40
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Jess McClintock :
Saying “you can keep asking but I’ve already answered” is my greatest relief
2026-09-18 15:36:45
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SaRo :
“Asked and answered” is my go to
2026-09-21 22:40:28
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jo_lav :
Thank you!
2026-09-14 18:28:37
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