@kators88: Saw this thought on @guapabou tiktok and it blew my mind. The presence of an invisible, pretend man demands more respect than a real woman does. #patriarchyproblems #misogyny #boyfriend #patriarchy #feminism
Because if he stops pursuing he’s being respectful to the other guy, not the woman.
2026-09-15 20:45:12
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mojo :
Also, the man can tell himself he is being rejected simply bc she has a boyfriend and not bc she’s not interested. It allows him to save face.
2026-09-16 01:17:17
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Nana B :
I heard a creator say “men are territorial, women are protectors”. Can’t unsee it.
2026-09-15 21:13:29
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VeronicaTigrilla PL :
New way of saying "no" to men is "I'm a man" or "I was man" [Łzy radości]
2026-09-15 20:39:30
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🌈 galen ❤️ :
Yup! Because when you say, “I have a girlfriend” or “I’m a lesbian” they say “you haven’t been with the right guy yet” 🤮
2026-09-16 00:09:00
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Kristen :
This is accurate 100%
2026-10-21 14:39:38
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🎼La la la la la.. :
Patriarchy is: having the surgeon ask for your spouses consent to have major surgery ie hysterectomy, etc. or saying a young woman can’t make that decision even if she doesn’t have a partner because her hypothetical spouse may want kids in the future.
2026-09-16 00:28:06
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``*°»🩵danielle🩵«°*‘‘ :
My friends and I would buy fake rings to wear when we went out.
2026-10-21 17:52:18
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Cass💐 :
Myself and many other women I know, wear “wedding rings” on our nights out for this reason.
2026-09-15 21:08:35
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Nat :
And they still don't believe you
2026-09-15 20:35:59
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KentuckyAllison :
We should be enough…
2026-10-21 02:04:12
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CheyRoseBrown18 :
I dont even date guys and I have to say I have a boyfriend for guys to leave me alone because even if you say you dont like guys they still think they have a chance!
2026-10-21 16:36:07
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MotherofDucks :
Even then, that doesn't always stop them. It makes them more determined.
2026-09-15 20:45:33
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Alyssa Rose 🌹 :
this is why I don’t say I have a boyfriend. I’m just honest and say I’m not interested. Take back that power!
2026-10-21 03:52:17
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Raspbetty :
Try telling them you have a girlfriend. They assume you’ll immediately agree to a threesome because obviously lesbians are only for male entertainment. So imagine you have to not only make up a boyfriend, but pretend you’re straight in the process. 😤
2026-09-16 06:41:59
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Emily 🌹 Rose :
I think it all comes down to respect. The man respects the invisible man and his “property” more than the woman herself.
2026-09-16 01:17:11
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Carrie 🌹 :
had a man tell me I look like a beat men and he needed that in his life. he wouldn't stop until I told him my boyfriend is a marine....
2026-10-20 13:50:10
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MamaJenn :
we literally have to lie 🙄
2026-09-15 20:45:44
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QueenMommyASMR :
I have started saying crazy things like “I’m not interested and if you convince me it’s only because I’m planning to rob you 😁“ they leave me alone quickly
2026-09-15 21:16:45
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Your mom :
It pretty much means that men will respect another man’s “property” rather than take the woman’s word and listening to her. Some men cannot fathom why a woman would say no to him and can’t let her make her own decision and it’s why they’ll keep trying to convince you to sleep with them until they find out you “belong” to someone else
2026-09-15 20:43:57
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alwaysthehb :
my sister used to wear a fake wedding ring from Clairs to work to avoid being hit on 😅
2026-09-15 21:38:04
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𝚂𝚊𝚛𝚊 @ NuRebel :
I've never experienced a man giving up when I said I had a boyfriend. In fact one boy said "well he's not here" 🤮
2026-09-15 21:45:25
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Queen Christine :
Because the boyfriend COULD beat his ass if he found out. A woman can’t. Until women start shooting…
2026-09-15 21:12:50
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hollyhutchens833 :
I tell them I’m gay… they instantly stop pursuing. They don’t want to be found repulsive so they disengage. The interactions have been surprisingly pleasant. We laugh, he leaves 🤷🏻♀️
2026-09-15 22:52:36
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Mika Minx :
not it doesn’t lol. men will still, “he don’t let you have friends” and, “what that gotta do with me” you a million times after.
2026-09-15 21:13:44
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