@coach.ryan0: The narcissist demands attention… not intimacy. That’s why their toxicity can feel “safer” to an unhealed dismissive avoidant than your genuine love ever did. You required emotional capacity. They only required participation in dysfunction. #DismissiveAvoidant #NarcissisticAbuse #AttachmentStyles #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipTok
Does that explain why my dad is avoidant and my mom is a narcissist lol
2026-09-16 13:40:08
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MamaB :
So what your saying is I should just be more self centered and give less of a shit about his feelings and he’ll like me more… promise as soon as I stop giving him the attention he wants he gets very moody, child like yes!
2026-09-19 02:09:00
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Tajtravel :
It wasn't long after our marriage that I understood my error
2026-09-17 01:20:22
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TRUTH&THEREALTRUTH :
Well good , I get called a narcissist from my dismissive avoidant … seriously I really wonder sometimes exactly what I am I thjs shit show . Lately it’s just belmg safe . Literally
2026-09-17 13:36:27
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DorothyCatherine :
the narc and da are one in the same. f….kin scary people
2026-09-16 01:06:36
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itsamy_gdala :
What about the non-narcissistic but low stakes parter who is only that way because they chronically self abandon and adapt to the avoidant’s comfort zone?
2026-09-16 06:26:21
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tripchic11 :
How does that even work? I feel like they would trigger each other all the time?
2026-09-17 02:23:46
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Preity Randhawa :
But they don’t feel attracted to each other right? That’s the problem
2026-09-15 17:18:29
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StaticSynth ᥫᩣ :
my avoidant ex had a narc ex gf... how did their relationship end?
according to him, they had a disagreement about some misunderstanding. he didn't text her, she didn't text him... that was it.
they gave each other the silent treatment.
from the little info that I gathered, they reconnected many months later but it was just to hook up. according to him she reached out begging him for s*x... he said he wasn't going to say no.. although he said he had lost all respect for her..
I found it very strange that they just stopped talking without either one making an attempt to talk...
anyway... this video is 100% spot on.
2026-09-17 00:56:03
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👑🦁In His Image🐑👑 :
My DA husband HAS Narcissistic traits and tendencies! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️😫
2026-09-16 04:28:51
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Stephen Cordina :
that's why my avoidant Sagittarius discarded me for an attention-seeking Leo
2026-09-16 10:02:10
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patti_labarbie :
Also the only person I felt like I loved.
2026-09-17 23:00:53
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Ana Elizabeth :
They are in the same fake persona space
2026-09-16 23:11:40
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fishPookie :
Run away from narcissists. They are over 99% incurable, and they will ruin your life if you let them get close. Stay safe.
2026-09-15 19:03:21
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mike.v :
omg that seals it for me the are co-broken humans I get it now.
2026-09-21 00:09:46
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Eli :
Good Luck to everyone 😜
2026-09-19 04:20:45
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chapter60 :
That's crazy true! My husbands ex was a narcissist. I can't wait to get out of this crazy world.
2026-09-16 03:08:03
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Dontworryaboutit :
A ghost?
2026-09-15 20:23:21
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Gemsie :
My avoidant ex said his ex was narcassist. This makes complete sense now, he said they never fell out or argued. Yet with me he could argue in an empty room! She ended up cheating on him and he never fully got over it. He even text her when he was with me about 3 months into our relationship, probably when the dopamine got low for him and he needed a little fix!
2026-09-15 18:58:17
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Jofish :
As a DA this is a terrifying video.
2026-09-15 21:49:18
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cnytkyln :
Let me tell you how I brought my narcissistic ex-spouse to heel: I didn't call for three weeks and only communicated with my children. He called five times during those three weeks, and finally, he called me saying he needed help. I’ve been at home with him and the children for a week now; I highly recommend this approach.
2026-09-19 21:58:55
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Erica :
Just as harmful, no matter the reason. Especially when it’s your “mother “ that is doing it, not a partner. You can walk away from a partner. It’s not that easy for a child to walk away from their mother, especially when she takes the rest of the family with her and leaves you alone and isolated.
2026-09-17 17:13:00
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