xoxo, cj •relationship burnout
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Oilydischarge :
Wife was 100% burned out but we worked at it. I gave her space, didn’t bother her about where she was, I didn’t beg for anything. I just let things be, I owned my behavior and never put any blame for what I did and felt on her. I worked on myself and allowed her to experience the new me. Last night we had a random deep talk and she expressed how she loves my changes after 5mo and actually desires to be around me now and we spoke about a few things pertaining to the old us and I opened up about that but you just have to take your hands off the wheel for BOTH parties to heal. We haven’t decided to reconcile yet but we both feel great about where we are and as she put it “I don’t know where I’ll end up yet but I have a very good feeling about it.” We now have no issues sharing a bed (not every night) we text constantly now, FaceTime and even had intimacy (which we both agreed was too soon) but to anyone who’s in your position or mine you have to remember that you can’t force the tide to come in just because you want to get back into the water.
2026-09-16 20:15:42
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user90223782 :
cj i dont know how to get to the point of being ok if this doesnt work out, they were the love of my life. i just cant accept that for something that still has so much love cant work once i work on myself and love myself and know who i am again
2026-09-15 21:26:56
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Derekdelfrate :
Me and my gf broke up in June, I didn’t give her space after and she blocked me and resented. I see her at uni but she just doesn’t acknowledge me same with her friends. I was told she’s talking to other guys and I just feel sick/anxious all the time. I feel like I just need to talk to hear it from her and get closure but can’t if her or her friends won’t let it happen. What should I do? I genuinely cannot live with this feeling
2026-09-16 01:36:46
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Lisa Gikas :
What if I was already doing all these things when my wife said she felt numb? And although she said she loves me tremendously, wants me in her life, is so proud of me and how far I’ve come, when she told me that she wasn’t IN love with me anymore, I didn’t beg, I didn’t plead, I didn’t yell or try to argue. I cried of course , but I told her that I can’t MAKE her feel otherwise, and I listened and validated how she was feeling. We still talk daily, for short, light, and warm conversation. I’ve booked a therapist for us as a couple and myself. And the way I’m fighting for us and our marriage is through trusting myself with knowing I will be okay, even if she does choose divorce.
2026-09-16 14:13:20
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Dulce 🌸 :
I just want to say, your videos helped me a lot. I had a breakup in May due to my partner being burnt out. I followed everything you said and we got back together late July and things have been really good. We are repairing things slowly 🫶🏽
2026-09-16 06:23:39
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fl.bound2020 :
We have been separated for 8 months married 34 yrs and together 38yrs. We definitely had issues we never dealt with and I want to work on getting back together and I am working on myself. Honestly I just feel lost at times anyway. We don’t talk about it, but can be together with our children and grandchildren with no issues. Help please!
2026-09-16 01:51:33
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Frankie🏳️🌈 :
I wish I could just let her be and hope she comes back. She left and is staying with a “friend” I have told her for months I did not like their relationship because they texted all the time, and she talked about this friend about 50% of the time. She is too close to this friend, she won’t set boundaries. I am just so worried that she is going to leave me and just stay with her. She basically left our relationship and went into one without anything sexual.
2026-09-16 01:36:21
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Sabrinathevet :
Yes, but also- where is your shirt from?
2026-09-19 10:28:47
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Stephanie Spencer♥️🇺🇸 :
And that’s where I am and I’m trying to be patient and do better.. we see eachother once a week I go over and he says he wants the relationship and his family back but he is so scared if he is all in I’ll just go back to the way I was.. when is enough though like it hurts to see him and then leave and he doesn’t call or text me through the week it’s silent only when he is ready to see me again and it almost feels like I’m being used. But he is connected with still making plans with the kids and showing up but when he says he wants his family back but his actions aren’t showing me anything at all I know I’m the one who caused all of this but I’m also human and want connection how long is it ok to not get any thing reciprocation
2026-09-16 01:49:15
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crazybrain😂 :
what if theres no arguments? me personally have had all bad relationships apart from one, ive met him 3 times in life, im bpd autism and adhd he doesn't, im in recovery hes not, me personally struggles to message him, in front of him I can talk to him, he did go quiet recently but still there, hes always been consistent, but I struggle saying my feelings for him, i show him more, but I dont see him often enough, but because I was co dependent on the toxic relationships I dont want to be in this one, he helps me heal as we got good memories, and have fun when we together but when apart, 😂 i feel crazy, my brain and body go into fight and flight mode, and id like to get the confidence to talk on a deeper level but I fear his rejection even though hes never rejected me,
2026-09-17 17:40:33
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armundtaylor7 :
cj I lost my job and she told me she wanted a divorce. she ask me to respect it and blocked me from everything. Since then I being putting in work and definitely dont want make anyone feel the way I made her, and I wont point the finger. Im just waiting on paperwork so I can forward its been 2 months. Im not worried about the outcome.. should I file, or should let her bc she wants it. or should I reach out and get it started..would I love make it right to reconcile bt I like for us to move forward in my life
2026-09-22 00:46:46
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AlleyCat Hydrographics LLC :
When my wife told me 6 months ago she was DONE I went full panic mode started showing up more and more pushing harder than before to show my love and it drove her away even faster even with her saying work on yourself it just wasn’t clicking and one day I woke up and told myself even after several friends saying work on yourself but I said dummy you can’t fix her only yourself and I fully detached from her very limited contact with her, watched from a distance and started getting the help I drastically needed for myself. It’s been about a week now and we had a 2hr talk and before she left she told me she’s not done yet with us she still cares for me and our marriage I simply couldn’t believe what I was hearing from her I NEVER thought I’d hear this again now I have to slowly come back to her and show her that the first responder retreats I’m doing are working while she does the work on herself…. That small glimpse that she’s doing some work on herself but still far off is great to see
2026-09-18 16:38:03
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Caleb Maloney :
Can I message you and talk to you about it? I’m 2 months into a break up with a 8 month old daughter. What do I do? :/
2026-09-16 08:29:14
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Chris :
I would love to talk to you
2026-09-16 00:59:51
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Mendo :
Very easier said than done.
2026-09-15 23:30:08
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edamameandlemonade :
we broke up bc of the burnout pursuer dynamic and now we’re back together and I’ve done the work to get better but he still feels not safe with me. we’re long distance now too. how do I let him feel safe with me again? should I text him less?
2026-09-19 22:01:18
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hogueinsight :
Youre a lifesaver cj!
2026-09-15 21:14:25
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Borg_1_Son :
So me and the wife have been separated for a year and we got a place together although She still wants to be separated, we are doing this for the kids. Is this a sign of hope? Even if she doesn’t want to talk about the relationship
2026-09-15 21:55:12
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Louis Gouneau :
We broke up 8 months ago and this is the situation I’m in
2026-09-19 15:17:58
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BrownJudoka55 :
I just realized that my actions caused her reactions and her emotions are her reality.I messed up so much and she stayed over and over. I have changed physically and emotionally and finally realized I had to fix me.
2026-09-22 21:31:13
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Curtis :
Been seperated the last 7 months but for two weeks we where working on are marriage and everything was going great, well so I thought until today she text me to say she doesn’t want anything between us and she’s comfortable on her own with the kids
2026-09-19 21:32:51
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Thalia :
Please put your captions higher next time
2026-09-17 03:23:58
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Sav :
@xoxo, cj •relationship burnout I sent you a message.
2026-09-16 00:15:39
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Mandi Birkhead :
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2026-09-15 23:39:17
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Michael Angelo Iskandar :
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2026-09-17 20:49:14
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