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Laney :
My ex had BPD and I genuinely had to check if I fit the criteria for being a narcissist
2026-09-16 02:34:12
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Pamela :
I told him MANY times that when he rolls his eyes and laughs at me, it hurts my feelings. Instead of apologizing and changing the behavior, he said I need to research my past and figure out why it upsets me. Ridiculous, huh?
2026-09-16 02:25:42
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exiguous.time :
Mine was “we were just having a good time and I’m sick of the emotional roller coaster” after he literally made a fat joke about me? wtf? This eventually graduated into him asking me if I was having manic episodes and I’m not someone who has those. I even went to doctors to see what was wrong with me
2026-09-16 02:24:36
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Darian 👽 :
ugh I’m pulling my hair outtttttt
2026-09-16 20:01:09
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Lily :
I got a therapist because I thought I was the problem and a bad communicator. After like 6 months of work on myself I realized there was nothing I could do to change his behavior and maybe it wasn’t me after all
2026-09-16 04:20:25
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Neely :
I was told i was gaslighting because towards the end of it i said unsending texts during a fight is a bad thing to do 😬
2026-09-16 20:25:28
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Crysten Rose :
He convinced me that every argument we had was my fault?? Like he would tell me that I was the problem in the relationship, and I was just so confused the whole time. I’ve been out for 7 months now, and my life is so much better!!
2026-09-16 16:07:49
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blackpearl :
Yea he was always calling my intuition fear
2026-09-16 02:58:13
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Destiny ☁️ :
Off topic but your eyebrows are soooo good
2026-09-16 02:32:03
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mxrensxphie :
i'm struggling to find info regarding when someone becomes abusive when he's high or drunk BUT not just towards me, he'll treat his dad, homeboys etc the exact same. and he doesn't hide it, he'll be out on the street yelling at me. so this "he can control it because he hides it and only does it to you" doesn't apply. it makes me wonder if there's a difference between strict DV and general violence. he's in rehab currently and i don't know if i should give him a chance. we're good when he's sober.
2026-09-16 19:14:59
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Pip :
I’m pretty sure I have a ton of good examples of this in my relationship. Two days ago I brought up something I had seen (a pitchers debut start in the major leagues that was interrupted because an ump told him to straighten his hat that was barely off, the pitchers signature placement of that hat.). My partner snapped and said “Good! I’m glad the ump did that!” (I disagree but not the point.) I told my partner I disliked his tone he uses with me, it’s like the crack of a whip, sharp and unfriendly. It became a huge disagreement. I asked him step by step how it could have been handled better because it seemed like he just doesn’t want me to ever address anything. I said “So I say I don’t like how you talk to me, then what?” He told me that the next step is to look at myself and analyze why I’m so sensitive. 😳
2026-09-15 23:20:41
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Emma Dulz :
Mine was always flipped around on me so he convinced me it was my fault he treated me that way. Abuse is wild.
2026-09-16 09:59:43
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rachel :
this is 1000% correct.
2026-09-16 17:21:35
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rosie_inthesky :
This applies to parents too
2026-09-16 17:44:18
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Mary Stewart :
Very well said. Hard to understand unless you’ve been in it.
2026-09-16 12:54:11
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iwaslikeameliooo :
I’m two weeks out of a relationship that was this on STEROIDS. This man broke my ribs and blamed me. Every single thing I said was attacked. My word choice, my tone, my perception, my timing, everything but what he did. He told me I didn’t speak English properly (it’s my first and only language lol). He’d force me into hours of circular conversations and word salad (he was also arrested for forcible confinement doing this). We never discussed his actions. He holds a high up job too.
2026-09-15 23:31:24
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🐧 :
Okay because I’m not questioning my sanity to the point where I texted my mother last night and asked her if I’m okay the problem (And I usually don’t ever involve her in my relationship)
2026-09-16 00:51:59
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Alexandrya :
He would start to cry and he would get "counter" mad towards the end
2026-09-16 04:03:47
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🫧✨️mossy✨️🫧🇵🇸 :
the title being at the start for like 1 nano second is so jarring it takes away from the overall message
2026-09-16 11:54:03
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Alienvero :
This is how my parents raised me
2026-09-16 00:13:51
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૮꒰ ˶• ༝ •˶꒱ა :
I was wondering when I'd start getting videos about this 💀 He's taken to calling me a lemming lately :)) Today I got a plan together to cut him off. Absolutely stupid as hell to belittle and insult the one person in your corner and who pays for all your bills :)
2026-09-16 02:29:24
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Max :
my most recent ex, everything he did to hurt me was done bc I did something wrong first. I made too much soup, so he had to get blackout drunk
2026-09-16 12:03:34
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Taylor_Madexo :
thats why when you find something in their phone inappropriate they get angry& deflect then deny disrespecting you then right after hurry up & change their phone password
2026-09-16 03:21:56
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Tiffany New :
If this applies... The reason why it is VITAL to run NOW- as totally unhinged as this sounds- is because YOUR OWN BRAIN is going to distort this memory, this emotion, until you feel safe again. Your brain is trying to protect you, and will eventually delete the memory that causes you so much fear and pain. I'll bet my check for the rest of the year you'll go to sleep in that house tonight, and I cannot put into words how horrifying that is. RUN. N O W.
2026-09-16 14:49:31
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formmethodstudio :
Being the problem and keeping the relationship together is a humiliation ritual and a unique form of hell. May a man like this never find me again.
2026-09-16 04:06:52
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