@growwithkaela: Whenever my ex DA and I would have an amazing time together or have a deep conversation, I started to say with a smile, “please don’t get weird tomorrow..” And he’d giggle, knowing exactly what I meant. But, he couldn’t help it. For the next few days he was there physically, but emotionally elsewhere. This is how DAs regulate their nervous system after too much closeness. It’s not to intentionally hurt you, but it doesn’t justify you having to feel confused either. Even when you do understand the pattern, you still deserve consistent, unconditional love. ❤️
Grow with Kaela
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Thursday 17 September 2026 14:10:34 GMT
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Scorpio girl :
Mine deactivated for 18 days with another woman on an Island in Indonesia. When he got back I showed him to my door.
2026-09-17 19:27:19
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bubba_downs1 :
“3-12 business months”
2026-09-18 20:18:53
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April :
ah that's why they completely change after vacation together
2026-09-18 07:42:14
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Captaincavegirrrl :
I got the ick when after 6 mo break up I reached out and we chatted a bit, flirt, dirty then found out he was seeing someone. Why talk to me then? Don’t want to be with me, but want me to be a side chick. No thanks. I’m sad, but eew
2026-09-18 02:37:38
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3MereMere23 :
Got my nervous system wreaked so bad that now I think I have become the avoidant...
2026-09-18 02:21:00
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TheLoveAlchemist🇨🇴 :
This explains A LOT!!!!…. I got stood up every single time. 🥲
2026-09-20 09:35:15
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Not me :
Idk 3-4 for days to chill after intense weekend together seems ok, not avoidant.
2026-09-17 20:14:03
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beachbabe512 :
You’re the only one tracking the pattern🤯
2026-09-19 10:52:18
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carolinanegronn :
This makes so much sense! Thank u so much
2026-09-18 11:17:51
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Kerri Boo :
This makes so much sense
2026-09-17 19:09:46
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Marbie :
On day seven 😭😭😭
2026-09-17 14:32:11
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NormaElisa♐️🇺🇸🇳🇮💃🏻 :
I started asking for more communication then I get blocked then unblocked
2026-09-17 21:52:13
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Shploofs :
He told me he’s trying to figure out what his Brian and heart want. I told him that uncertainty isn’t my waiting room.
2026-09-18 12:42:04
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Diane :
This is so accurate
2026-09-18 04:04:24
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saturnis.fbx :
I’m good no thanks, never again
2026-09-18 18:33:07
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real.soul1111 :
He made a comment about him going to hook up with someone else and I thought he was joking. Nope and in fact told me to go sleep with other people too, he wouldn’t care he said 🫠
2026-09-18 00:39:42
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letbabylonburn :
You make so much sense
2026-09-17 16:30:11
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AllUNeed114 :
this has been happening to me constantly for that last 9 years smh
2026-09-17 17:47:00
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TheEclecticWitch :
on day , like 300 .. idk ive been blocked by them on everything
2026-09-17 17:35:04
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Lilac Hazel :
For severe Dismissive Avoidants, their vulnerability hangover lasts around 2-4 weeks 😳.
2026-09-18 08:01:22
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SailorBlue :
💯 Facts
2026-09-19 09:44:45
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Sc0li0sisQu33n :
Never again I’m 3 years in he got us a house promised marriage I’m so drained
2026-09-18 20:55:07
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Miss Lizzy 🎀 :
spot on...😳🙆♀️😂😂
2026-09-18 15:35:41
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Mario Gee :
What did she call it after we got close, um yeah self care, that's what she called it.. Self Care. She disappeared for 3 business days.
2026-09-19 00:11:25
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MamaB :
Over and over in 25 years
2026-09-18 17:44:44
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