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💜💗💜HARTEDIEF💜💗💜 :

my brother lost he's daughter today. she was just 14 ind I don't know how to help him. my hard is braking for him.[Crying]

Josh’s mom :

Josh went home last October, holidays will never be the same, he’s our only child I’m grateful for the 27 years we had him, he was a big light in our family, we have nephews and niece that lost their 16 years before they look to us for family stuff but we went out of town for holidays… we couldn’t do or usual and I know they are hurting but idk if we can do it this year either, I felt guilty for not doing all the things my son loved during the holidays…. I just don’t know if I’ll be ready this year feels like we just lost him yesterday.. give yourselves some grace

Machete :

I didn't quit holidays for my other children. I was not all into it, but I couldn't show my grief to them. I was showing them they can be strong because they lost their brother also. i know that god is watching over him. I'm happy I got those 8 years.i knew he's watching also. I do still hurt in my heart so bad it's been 23 years. I treasure my children and my grandchildren. I see him in theme

Donnieb :

life is for the living. your person would not want to be the reason their is no Christmas this year. Honor them by showing up for the loved ones who are still here. As you know that can all change in a second.

Cille :

I truly believe we should do all the traditional things and also add something new. Even if it hurts. We are still a family. The loss of our beloved daughter has taken enough and will always be our wound. But we should celebrate and honor her doing what we always do. But it is hard. So hard. 💙💚

TJBaker :

We lost my son a year ago. We tried to celebrate the holiday but it just wasn’t the same. Now everyone are at odds with each other. It’s so sad😭

Erica :

I use to decorate everything for Christmas make cookies as a family. Now I only put a tree up for my grandkids. I don’t bake no more I absolutely hate the holiday season now. My son always use to buy me the best gifts and his favorite holiday was thanksgiving. I don’t let anyone make his favorite desserts anymore. I just put a mask on for the holidays and have frequent break downs

Ann S Meyer :

I lost my son two months ago nd I can't even thnk of Christmas without him 💔

Amber Weeks :

my daughter that passed away her birthday is dec 26 Xmas is a struggle I try to hide how hard it is so my other children can still celebrate give yourself grace holidays are extremely hard it doesn't get easier you just learn how to hide it better my daughter would be turning 9 this year and my son would be almost 5

Drema Poe :

I don't feel like it but for my granddaughters, we had Christmas but it just wasn't the same without my son.

LucyVi :

Holiday grief is so real. Thanksgiving, her birthday, Christmas, New Year’s, then her death anniversary follows three days after. It’s been two years and we still don’t celebrate holidays. But I look at my sweet boy, growing up.. and I’m missing out on celebrating him. So no matter how hard it’ll be, I’ll celebrate it for us. We live. We gotta find a different normal.. that doesn’t mean we won’t celebrate her or that she’s forgotten. We’ll eventually find a way to celebrate her too. Sending you so much love.

Patricia Brown :

nothing is not the same my life is not the same since my daughter my first born left us it will be 3 years in December the hurt is getting worst everyday I am so broken I just wish I could get my daughter back why did I have to bury my child to all you parents my heart goes out to you all may God give you strength

RubyG08 :

It's 9 years I lost my only son wen I see his friends I look if I can see him if I see a car like his I feel my child is back this pain is in me everyday I miss him so much

momma_cece2❌ :

So painful ❤️

user1616576662987 :

i lost my second son, 5 months ago . if someone ask me if i'm ok . i say i never truly be okay. but i know i have to because i'm a mother , i have another son. my first child also had a hard time losing his younger brother. we grieve the loss of our child forever,yet at the same time we must fight for our other children because they deseve to be happy. i pray for all of us grieving parents . may we all gradually find the strength to go on. the pain is unbearable . but may God strengthen us all

Angela❌ :

Wow this is heartbreaking. I loss children who never made it to life. My hubby at the time loss him to. The pain was I

Yvette13 :

I’m not there yet my bby has only been gone 2 months but I would try to heal first and if they love you they’ll understand. Just let them know, communication is crucial. Tell them you’re not stopping them but you’re not ready

ShaShaSonier :

I’m forcing it . I have to acknowledge the living too. Doesn’t change missing Joseph . 💔

Ashika roezayg rafeeq 19th :

Mary Ann :

So sorry for your loss. I am happy for your husband that he is ready. Please do not feel guilty or torn. Your feelings matter too. Have you asked your other children how they would like to celebrate? They lost a sibling a part of their life too. No one grieves the same way. I do not celebrate the same but I am there for my other son and we celebrate things differently now. We never know how we feel with each holiday I wish you well Angel Momma. My thoughts are with you and your family 🤗.

Jett :

It’s been 3 years since we lost our baby. She was 20 and impacted every person she knew. We also have three more children and grandchildren. We have to carry on for their sake to keep some sort of normalcy. Then feel guilty after. Not so much for her brothers and sister, they lost too. But we have to be happy for the grandbabies because they deserve nothing less.

Rebecca Lane :

The first Christmas after my son died, I didn’t do Christmas at all. That was last Christmas. This year maybe because I have my little grandkids, but I don’t feel like it. I’ve never feel like it again because there will always be that empty chair. 😭💔🫂🙏🏻🕊️

ᙖᖇᗩᑎᗪIᙓ🌸🌴🌊 :

This will be the first holidays without my son. I don’t want to decorate or celebrate anything.

eganderson88 :

Our son’s favorite holiday was Christmas so on his birthday in Oct the tree goes up so we can take time decorating it and our daughter can help set it up for Patrick and share stories.

Antonietta :

If he is ready tell him he can and he has to carry you. It is clear you do not have the emotional energy for decorating, shopping, cooking but he can do all that and you will show up. I could not grocery shop or cook for a whole year after my son died. I was triggered remembering what he liked, what he enjoyed. My husband took over. I am enjoying cooking again for all the others who are still here. Eventually we do need to make a decision to attend to the life that is left behind.