Emily | Abuse Education
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Friday 18 September 2026 13:45:40 GMT
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stormyweathr :
and part of what makes it so hard is that it’s SO difficult to cognitively synthesize the dr. jekyll and mr. hyde. the idealization and the abuse are so different that your brain naturally separates the two
2026-10-04 17:28:28
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Caitlin :
And it makes you feel like you’ve met your person :(
2026-09-19 01:18:59
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Elisha :
It’s called a bait and switch - I was soooo fortunate enough for my husband to show me this 😅
2026-10-04 06:31:16
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Mirrorlight Publishing :
this is the part nobody wants to hear. the good times weren't separate from the abuse they were what made you stay through it. that's not a flaw in you that's how cycles work
2026-09-18 15:03:19
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patti.cakess :
Idealization is dehumanizing but so intoxicating too. They use the exact same words and playbook for every victim. It’s the down payment for their true personality and the abuse to come. When you start catching on they bring back all that perfect love bs temporarily.
2026-09-18 21:07:24
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Chiming Jade :
He can brew you the most delicious soup, but if he plops in even the tiniest turd, the whole pot is ruined.
2026-10-03 18:38:10
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SteppinOutSolo :
Can someone tell me why this happens? Why not just be a nice decent person, I really don’t get it
2026-09-18 19:35:44
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Kelsey :
I want to go back
2026-09-19 02:55:28
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stella :
Your videos make me feel so seen and heard! It is so confusing and it’s so difficult tolerating feelings and thoughts when you leave. You are amazing please never stop helping us ❤️
2026-09-18 20:03:11
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Stephanie Atlas Zuko :
Sent you a DM queen 🥰💜💜
2026-09-25 03:28:24
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Tasha Magolan :
The cycle never stops. My old mental health counselor taught me about the abuse cycle and the stages that keep repeating.
2026-09-18 14:47:41
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lexiagnant :
Wow so true , thank you for highlighting that because sometimes you forget and become confused about the good times
2026-09-27 16:23:48
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🆘🇺🇸 🇺🇦❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤 :
This was and still is very hard to reconcile with.
2026-09-27 02:49:14
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TractorDan :
Called love bombing
2026-09-18 23:33:57
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hanijab567 :
Him treating me well WAS ALSO abuse .. damn
2026-09-20 08:42:38
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Kaelyn :
❤️I needed this today
2026-09-20 23:39:53
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Mirrorlight Publishing :
the chemistry was real but it wasnt accidental. they study you first. they mirror you. they reflect back exactly what your nervous system has been starving for. and thats why the withdrawal hits so hard. because your body bonded to the feeling of finally being seen. not to the person who was performing it
2026-09-27 14:57:59
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hanijab567 :
Thank u sis appreciate your response
2026-09-20 08:41:48
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SageG1rl :
The guy I was seeing 5 yrs ago was 20 yrs younger than me and he still groomed me like a dad: all the touching my chin and stroking my hair and head and asking what I ate that day. It was all to manipulate me and it worked. Lost my dad at 23 with 3 months’ warning only. When I met the guy I was 50 and he was 30 and he’s a serial abuser of women. A sex addict and an alcoholic and drug addict and gang member and criminal. Had the best time with him and the worst. Hurt me more than anyone maybe but I also learned the most. Learned all about my childhood attachment issues in real time. Listened to the audiobook by Janina fisher about parts work and it helped a lot and solved the puzzle of my psyche basically. It still took years to practice though. 🎧🤍HEALING THE FRAGMENTED SELVES OF TRAUMA SURVIVORS: OVERCOMING INTERNAL SELF-ALIENATION. The narrator is annoying but it’s worth it.
2026-09-27 02:44:39
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thelolafontana :
I agree, I’m 4 years now just giving them silent treatment cut them off when they broke up with me to get out of responsibility/ accountability/remorse… goes from them trying to be sober and loving.. then less than a week he started hanging with a enabler and started trying to be confrontational with me for me to be the reason to relapse.. I’ve cut them off no mater how hard … because I know him trying to be sorry him trying to be loving I’m affirming to myself is just part of the cycle… this video is just confirmation it’s a cycle and I’ll do anything to not be at the end of the cycle ever again… I’m unrecognisable to this version of myself but I know choosing myself and rebuilding all I have lost is more important to me
2026-09-18 14:56:13
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(Diva) Down w/ the Sickness :
Needed this one today! I love the analogy of if you put a frog in boiling water - it would just jump out. But if you start with nice warm water and slowly turn up the heat it’ll hardly notice
2026-09-20 17:03:32
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Erica Campbell :
This!!! My therapist told me this and it fixed my brain — I was like he was so great sometimes and she was like, yeah you’re not crazy that’s why you stayed and that’s part of the abuse 🙃
2026-09-20 06:25:14
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sp0okyb1tch :
I remember from the start he was being shit, and is must have sweeped it under the rug because we had fun sometimes
2026-09-19 09:14:12
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Mirrorlight Publishing :
the good times are the reason she stayed so long because they proved the person she fell in love with was real and if that person was real then the bad times must have been her fault and thats the trap that keeps the cycle spinning
2026-09-24 00:15:49
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HickoryHam :
For every ugly moment there was a beautiful one, that’s how abuse works and that’s why it’s so hard to leave.
2026-10-01 22:58:01
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