@coachelizabethshaw: 7 Rules Behind A Narcissist’s Toxic Logic Have you ever walked away from an argument feeling completely confused? You tried to explain your feelings. You tried to find a solution. But somehow, you ended up defending yourself while the original issue disappeared. This confusion often comes from trying to understand someone’s behaviour using your own values of fairness, empathy and accountability. When someone has strong narcissistic traits, their actions may appear to follow a different set of rules. One common pattern is that control becomes the priority. The focus can shift from resolving the issue to controlling the situation, the conversation or how others see events. Another pattern is avoiding responsibility. Mistakes are explained away, blame is shifted and someone else becomes responsible for their actions. They may also expect different rules for themselves than they do for others. What is acceptable for them may suddenly become unacceptable when someone else does it. Agreement may bring approval, while disagreement may be viewed as criticism or disloyalty. The most exhausting part can be the confusion. You keep explaining, defending and searching for a logical answer. Sometimes the most important question is not: “Why are they doing this?” But: “What outcome are they trying to achieve?” Recognising the pattern can help you stop getting trapped in the cycle and start protecting your own peace.
