@celastrinacalea: “Just be yourself” is problematic

user3114045591315 :

Everyone has to do their inner work. Decipher your familial conditioning. What do you keep and what do you toss. You are not just the labels, limiting beliefs, or survival tactics you used. You have to map out what you stand for. Build your core values and live by them. This is self-actualzation. This is what your soul needs from you.

luis :

You have to realize you are non-self as well as a self, first. Where would the self stick but the non-self?

chrissy :

Yes, so true. Finding ways to become aware of automatic patterns can be challenging. It requires an observing self who can challenge the automatic beliefs, and then choose what is authentic to self and what is not. Neuroscience and brain rewiring are showing the way to peel the layers of adaptation that no longer serves you.

njschmo25 :

I don’t know who I am…..many years of showing up for everyone else & never thinking about what I want….now I’m here! It’s an “ excavation” for sure!!

Christopher Orgeron :

Your aura dictates my reaction to you.

Ian Drake :

whats interesting is that there could be an archetype of wholeness that the self is.

Maria Dugarte :

thank you

ckepps :

Parts vs core self… IFS

Nothing :

But is there a persisting self there underneath all the stories, deceptions, and masks? Does an unchanging self exist beneath or behind the play of masks or are we the play of masks itself?

Don't bomb children. :

Jusy be yourself is impossible for a borderline. Which self. Which emotional underpinning is currently running the show.

Srinivas Doddapaneni :

I am unique.I have a virtual family on X. Physical environment doesn't make sense.Iam not lagging. This is going to be sure. There will never ever be anyone coming close.Next to impossible.I mean it.

Gerard🌙 :

When they say "just be yourself," they're presupposing that they're something praiseworthy.

root :

" Just be yourself" what if myself is everything I'm trying to avoid being

Anuk Persad :

therefore are u saying interoception and introspection = adaptation ?

Glass Wolf :

I know the answer to your question. So I decided to enjoy solitude instead of interacting with people that don’t meet my standards

Karina, Pro-AI but Picky :

Oh love this subject! Wanna be friends?

🌬🍃𝓖𝓪𝓲𝓪 𝓢𝓸𝓹𝓱𝓲𝓪🦉 :

universe :

on my way on my personal via negativa😁

FFG :

but that is the most decent advise to an a hole🤪

Michael Brits :

Too much knowledge can also lead to foolishness!!