@narcissisticabuse__: Hi, it's Juliana! I'd like you to imagine there are three spotlights that follow the narcissist around 24/7. The first spotlight is called “positive.” The second spotlight is called “negative.” The third spotlight is called “victim.” They always want to have the positive or victim spotlight shining on them. So when they hurt you, they often won't want to acknowledge what they did. Because that would mean stepping under the negative spotlight. So instead of saying: “I'm sorry for hurting you.” They'll say things like: – “You're exaggerating.” – “You're too sensitive.” – “It wasn't that bad.” And this often allows them to step under the victim spotlight because now the two of you are arguing about the validity of your pain. And this gives them an opportunity to look like a victim of your: – Overreaction. – Sensitivity. – Drama. But they're not. They hurt you, and you have a right to point that out. If you need someone to talk to about all of this, you can always send me a DM or schedule a session with me. My team and I help people heal from narcissistic abuse, and many of us have experienced it ourselves, so we're here if you need us. To your healing, Juliana ❤️‍🩹

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