@anxiouslyalej: You think breaking a rule for him makes him more invested. It makes YOU more invested. Everybody teaches “don’t break your rules for him” through what it does to him. It builds his entitlement, it inflates his ego, and yes, that’s true. But the most damaging thing it does is to you, for two reasons. One, your ego is in it now. You’re laying in bed thinking, please God, don’t let this man embarrass me, and don’t let this self-abandonment be for nothing. Two, your identity. Your rules and your boundaries are what separate you from your environment, and they make sure you like yourself no matter who you’re around. Bend them for a man and your identity gets chipped away one self-abandoning decision at a time, along with your self-trust. Your mental energy starts going to him at an alarming rate, because you no longer know how you’ll act around him, and in your head it must mean he’s really special, so his opinion starts to outweigh yours. Who you are is what you repeatedly do. Once you stop, anybody can walk into your life and tell you who you are, and you might believe him. That is how it happens. And that is why ending self-abandonment before it even starts is the first thing I teach in my masterclass. Once you stop abandoning yourself, everything changes. Send this to your group chat, and tell me in the comments: what is the one rule you will never break for a man again? LINK IN BIO FOR MASTERCLASS Keywords: losing yourself in a relationship, how to not get too invested too fast, how to stop getting attached too quickly, self abandonment, self trust, dating advice for women, relationship psychology, anxious attachment, self worth, boundaries in dating, standards in dating #datingadviceforwomen #womensdatingadvice #datingadvice #relationships #breakups

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