@jerrytwise: 👉 Get my free 84-minute training if your family labeled you as the problem and you are ready to break free from that verdict. Link in bio! You can also join My Road to Self Program, where your identity stops being defined by family roles. In a narcissistic family system, a verdict is handed down about who you are early in life. They label you as the difficult one, the scapegoat, or the source of all family conflict. You spend decades either trying to disprove their judgment or quietly believing that something is wrong with you. That verdict had nothing to do with your true character. Every dysfunctional family system runs on chronic anxiety that needs a target. The system assigns that anxiety to the family member who is most perceptive, sensitive, or aware. They make you the problem because the family system requires a distraction to avoid looking at its own dysfunction. When you understand the function that role served, you stop taking their judgment personally. You were never broken, you were simply assigned a role to hold the family together. ↳ Getting them out of you means realizing their verdict was about their anxiety, not your worth. 👉 Join My Road to Self Program to stop living like the problem was you. Link in bio!
Jerry T Wise
Region: US
Monday 21 September 2026 15:05:21 GMT
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fishPookie :
Go no contact with NPDs. It's the smartest move I ever made. My mental health has gotten a lot better for going no contact.
2026-09-21 15:34:30
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SunnyGirl :
Awe my sweetheart inner child will always be protected and supported now that I'm able and willing.
2026-09-21 21:11:29
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💡 :
Idc gonna be richer than everyone I’ve ever known with my work ethic
2026-09-29 22:47:30
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tealmarie :
i've been called a little asshole since I was 6 months old because I "spit up" the food my birther gave me. At 40 I had a daughter that we found out is alergic to rice cereal. her entire body would fold up while throwing up. when I described what was happening to her to my birther, she paused and says, "huh, that was what happened to you too." but im still the asshole even though I was being poisoned by the food she was feeding me. I'm now no contact with my family.
2026-09-23 15:10:57
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𝕵𝖔𝖘𝖊𝖕𝖍 𝕰𝖈𝖈𝖑𝖊𝖘 :
Like Meg in family guy
2026-10-02 21:18:06
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Jason :
😂 welcome to first born
2026-09-21 18:13:36
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daly❤️ :
I am conscious now that I’m out of cognitive dissonance and I can remember some blocked memories of my mother abusing and grooming my siblings so they would be messed up like her. What if all the times she tried to turn me into a little devil too didn’t work with me. I know I am a problem to them not because they can define or assign my identity but because I don’t submit to them or their system
2026-09-21 23:15:08
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Disney Mama :
I became the scapegoat when they realized I wasn’t a carbon copy of my sister
2026-10-07 15:13:37
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thekekeresistance :
I’m that person. I left, cut everyone off except my mom and my stepdad (I set very strict boundaries with both) but all my siblings and bio dad are gone
2026-09-24 14:06:22
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Supertuff3 :
No contact from my mother and 2 of my brothers. I could never be good enough, thin enough or intelligent enough. Bye Bye people.
2026-09-23 18:33:32
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Elizabeth Schulten :
Since I was a baby! 😳😳
2026-09-28 15:56:45
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Brodie :
Sounds like family to a tee
2026-10-01 01:48:23
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Athena.The.Observer :
I pray for my narcissistic family to wake up, get a heart, & take accountability where’s it’s needed. Otherwise they will never have real connections, things will be built on lies & validation. I may let them back in my life if I truly know they have changed for the better & no longer lost in the darkness & following evil people.
2026-09-22 03:34:49
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Joshua Fannin :
Burn the bridges
2026-09-25 17:01:51
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Jrock :
I am not the problem, I am the solution
2026-09-21 19:36:11
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Michael Bernstein :
Thank you, sir.
2026-09-23 07:13:17
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12welve :
INFJ s have been targeted as the scapegoat the Most 🤔
2026-09-24 16:51:14
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__h_e_a_t_h_e_r__ :
The one who can see behind their mask becomes the problem because labeling them before they find their voice is easier than having to explain to everyone else why you’re wearing one to begin with. The one who exposes their vulnerabilities has to be silenced. 😔 Trust me… I know.
2026-09-22 00:22:54
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kodiaksmith86 :
Mom is promble
2026-09-22 13:45:13
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rachelelounigro :
Yup. This is why I don’t talk to any of them.
2026-10-04 23:10:12
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Rebeca Roitman :
Yup. Narcissistic mom. Narcissistic dad. Narcissistic sister. Now divorcing Narcissistic husband 😮💨🤧
2026-09-22 14:36:52
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TheSchneeb :
In my family, my brother was the problem child until I reported him for his abusive behavior. It seems like that's around when I became the problem child. Is it normal for the scapegoat role to be shifted like that? Is there a name for it?
2026-09-21 21:19:50
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kimulmer31 :
💯
2026-09-21 19:30:17
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Aden💄🩷 :
But why I just arrived to earth
2026-09-21 15:45:25
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Texas Living :
helloo
2026-10-06 06:46:05
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