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frances :
yes , we’re supposed to be bored sometimes damn.
2026-09-22 00:28:50
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angel🪽. :
also, how much someone texts you doesn't determine how much they like you. unfortunately...
2026-09-21 21:29:11
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Senny :
my phone stays on dnd, no last seen, no read receipts. I honestly use my phone WHEN I want to..maybe that’s why we’re all so anxious now, it’s excessive phone use 😔
2026-09-21 19:09:17
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bhadd.lathii :
so do i unblock him
2026-09-21 21:06:15
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ozzie.greenz :
yes and no i agree it shouldn't say anything about your nobody should be accessible 24/7, but I think this overlooks reliability Relationships,friendships family come with some level of social responsibility because people are trusting you with parts of their lives. The question isn’t “why can’t I always access you?” but “are you dependable when it matters?” And more importantly how selective is your unavailability? If you can consistently make yourself available for work, certain people or certain situations, then it’s fair for someone close to you to notice that Space is healthy, but reliability and mutual responsibility are also part of intimacy and friendship
2026-09-21 23:52:27
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Tshegofatso ❤️ :
Omg ? I love this 😭❤️. I’ve never seen someone articulate themself in such a beautiful way
2026-09-22 08:08:50
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uNathiey :
I feel that but can you just communicate it with me. Especially when you talk, talk then dissappear it's annoying and unfair. Imagine talking to someone face to face and they just leave without saying anything.
2026-09-22 06:46:02
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Nomvelo Mnguni :
i got blocked for sleeping
2026-09-21 23:01:23
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Oyama Manyathi :
And sometimes I don’t have the capacity to handle your emotions cause nami ngiya gowa nkos’yam
2026-09-21 21:17:01
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𝓑𝓸𝓲✮ :
VALID cause why tf is it a must that answer a text immediately after you send it when we're in a relationship
2026-09-22 06:01:37
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_mfenenhle :
All my last seen/online status has been off for like 3 years now, my friends know I’ll reply eventually and all our calls are scheduled. None of us expects the other to be available at the drop of a hat and I love that about us
2026-09-21 21:19:46
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lowkey :
but if my phone is in my hand and i see the message i’ll respond?😭
2026-09-21 20:57:37
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jamsonice :
And me putting my phone on dnd should say something!if you can’t reach me then don’t try again cause i won’t answer,i need space to myself!
2026-09-21 22:31:06
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khanyamaz🌀 :
Very popular opinion. Once you learn not to take other people’s communication styles personally, omg, the freedom. A lot of people need to start looking at it that way and teach themselves not to respond if they don’t feel like it. That’s where a lot of that anxiety comes from.
2026-09-22 01:21:36
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𝓚 💎 :
I hear this !
2026-09-21 20:15:59
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R’s interlude :
And that’s why I always ask people when did “my availability become synonymous to immediately”?
2026-09-21 21:33:00
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Mbumbi🙃 :
“Anxiety dressed up as intimacy “
2026-09-22 07:59:32
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ꨄ︎ :
and we all need time alone to be by ourselves
2026-09-21 22:13:47
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Nic ✨ :
Oh I love this opinion
2026-09-21 22:05:54
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Marvel :
Genuinely can i have a break
2026-09-21 22:45:12
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asi.kewana🫧 :
This!!!
2026-09-21 19:10:52
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narnia.wkt :
u valid, clocked my tea tho 💀 i don’t think anyone is shady for not being as receptive as me because i respond and im there pretty quickly i just assume a lot that whatever you give is supposed to be reciprocated just in a way where it can feel like you’re there and i can reach you. but lately im learning.
2026-09-21 21:00:28
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nicole the entreprenuer :
I have finally found my people. My phone is always on DND, my read receipts are off and my notifications are off. That's why I also disappear from social media sometimes. I really enjoy my peace.
2026-09-21 22:36:56
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ozzie.greenz :
I also think the “before phones we weren’t this accessible” thing misses something relationships were historically built heavily around proximity and closeness physically Your friends, family and community were often physically present in your life everyone knew each other Phones didn’t invent the idea of being reachable, they changed how we reach each other as our lives became less physically connected Nobody owes anyone 24/7 access, but wanting some consistency from people you’re close to isn’t automatically surveillance or “anxiety dressed as intimacy.” Sometimes it’s simply wanting a friendship where we genuinely show up for each other and granted there are people who show up for each other while being off their phones
2026-09-21 23:59:49
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Pholani :
OMG YES ! You’ve articulated this so well.
2026-09-21 21:22:45
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