@jamesonarasi: C.S. Lewis understands grief. He knows what it’s like to lose someone he never thought he’d live without. He said: “The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.” At first, it almost seemed too simple. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized how much truth it held. Because if you’ve known deep grief, you understand. It’s not separate from love; it is love. Love that still aches to be given, that lingers long after they’re gone. That’s the deal, he says. The price of love is loss. The greater the love, the deeper the grief. You don’t get one without the other. And yet, when I read that, I asked myself: When did I agree to this? No one tells you that this is part of it. No one warns you that loving deeply means, one day, you may grieve just as deeply. No one hands you a contract at the start that says: “This will be worth it, but it will also break you.” That the same heart capable of holding immeasurable joy will one day have to hold unbearable sorrow. And yet, here we are. It’s easy to resent that, to wish it away, to long for a life untouched by loss. But if given the choice, would I undo it? Would I erase the love just to escape the pain? The answer is always no. Because grief isn’t just pain; it’s proof. Proof that something beautiful existed. That we were given something worth missing. Proof that someone’s presence mattered enough to leave an emptiness in their absence. That it was worth it. Even knowing how it ends. Even knowing how much it hurts. So, on the hard days, you must remind yourself: You wouldn’t trade the love to escape the grief. You wouldn’t erase the happiness to avoid the pain. And you will endure a lifetime of missing them, for the privilege of having loved. I guess that’s the deal. -JAMESON #grief #Love #missyou

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