Kira :
I HATE the family guilt trips over this. family always demanded I give them hugs and kisses as they left, and often guilt tripped me, leaving me (undiagnosed ADHD autistic till 2 years ago) questioning if I did something wrong or if I wasn't loved by extended family. one aunt STILL does it, and I'm 25. and told her I don't like it. I don't even hug my mum that much unless I feel okay doing it. 😕
My cousin's kids, and my nephews, I ask if I could have a hug, often they're happy to. If they say no, I say okay that's your choice, and ask for a high five instead, which often they love to do. I don't ask for kisses, but if they offer a kiss themselves, I'll reciprocate and thank them. but I'd never force it.
one nephew is nearly 15 months and his new thing is when you say come here or can I have a hug, he giggles and runs away instead, it makes me laugh 😂
but if they want to, they will, there's no pressure ❤️
2026-09-22 20:34:58