@colezesiger: Everyone said that when you get out there and meet new people, your ex would fade into the background… But for some reason, dating makes you miss them even more. What’s going on?🧐 Is there something you’re missing?.. Or is this revealing that they were truly the one?💔 Usually, it’s much simpler than that. As I’ve observed thousands go through breakups, I’ve noticed these two patterns: 1️⃣ If you find yourself comparing new people to your ex on dates, this does NOT automatically mean you’re not over them. Our brains are designed to save time and energy by creating patterns. 🧠 Right now, your ex is the default mood for what a romantic partner looks like. As you begin to date, your brain automatically judges people based on that pattern. This isn’t a sign you’re not ready, it’s a sign you’re human. But the next pattern is far more interesting. 2️⃣ When we find ourselves in uncomfortable situations, we feel the need for what is familiar. Dating is hard. For most of us, it falls outside of our comfort zones. Like a child, longing to be close to her mother the first time she is away at school, as you re enter the dating world, you will be more tempted to return back to what did work. Your brain will think, “life would be so much easier if we could just be back in THAT relationship.”👫 So you are pulled to return to it. 🏃‍♀️ In most cases, if you broke up, your relationship ended for a reason. This is a trick of the mind, just trying to keep you safe. Just being aware of that can help remind you that you’re not broken, you’re not crazy, you’re just human. If you need one on one help navigating your heartbreak, click the link in my bio!

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