@patrickgotit: The cost of dialing yourself down isn't exhaustion. It's this: the person across from you attaches to the edited version, and you can't hand them the full-strength version five years later and expect them to stay. Diann Wingert on masking in relationships and how hiding pieces of yourself guarantees the connection stays shallow, and why showing up as all of who you are is the fastest way to find out who's actually here for you. Half of situationships are two people dating edited versions of each other. My e-book on that is in my bio.