@feelingsbyella: boundaries sound harsh until you realize they're not about controlling anyone. they're just the things you both agree on so neither of you has to guess. most of what breaks couples isn't some big betrayal, it's small stuff nobody said out loud until it got heavy. but writing a list like this is the easy part. actually keeping them takes checking in, like properly asking how they're feeling about us, not just how their day went. we made that part fun by playing getourtime after dinner instead of sitting down for some serious talk. it gets us onto things we'd never think to bring up on our own, and it's lowkey improved our relationship in ways i didn't expect. ✨ #couples #healthyrelationships #boundaries #relationshipadvice