@lovewithmarcela: “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re overreacting.” “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” “You always take things personally.” All the favorite responses of someone who doesn’t want to be accountable for how they treat you. They didn’t like when you expressed that something hurt you. They didn’t like when you asked for clarity. They didn’t like when you stopped laughing things off. They didn’t like when you became distant after being repeatedly dismissed. They didn’t like when you started questioning the relationship. So they focused on your reaction instead of their behavior. And slowly, you started asking yourself: Am I too sensitive? Am I asking for too much? Maybe I’m the problem. But your reaction is information. Manipulation can look like making you defend your feelings instead of addressing what caused them. Pay attention to whether the conversation keeps becoming about how you reacted rather than what happened to you. Comment COACH if you are ready to stop repeating this pattern.
