Joshua Lindsey
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Canislunaticus :
Two of the managers took me into a 2 on 1 after I had been on a sick leave cause of burn out. First thing one of the managers does is criticise me for a minor thing that harmed no one and doesnt get in my way of doing my job. I am neurodivergent and when I'm alone and we have little to no guests I like having music on my ears to stay focused and motivated to get everything done, I rarely do it and remove it if I see someone walk in, but that was a problem to one of the managers. I've been very open about my struggles and I sobbed during the meeting and several other 1 on 1 or 2 on 1s previously, but I get told "Well we can't give you special treatment" when all I ask for is accommodation cause I don't function like a neurotypical.. And instead of asking "What more can we do for you?" she asked "What can you do?"
2026-11-08 10:42:41
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Floor :
I just don't bring anything up anymore 🤷🏻♀️
2026-09-25 12:49:06
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MrsB.ontv :
I spoke to Mine with serious concerns about one of her line reports, she said she had been told by other people but unless she sees it she can't act on it. she later asked me to manage someone who she saw do something wrong, but I didn't see it so how do I act on it
2026-11-08 23:27:42
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danny_with.a.y :
You guys are getting 1:1s?
2026-09-25 12:19:32
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mmhappy2 :
“Have you tried being more resilient?” When there are systematic failures
2026-09-24 18:28:06
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June Dorrian :
Exactly
2026-11-07 16:51:41
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Chris Kennedy🏴 :
If they come to me with an issue it's not my job to solve it. It's my job to help them solve it with support so they can learn for the next time. Asking them what they would do isn't a trick question or flipping it back on them-it's me gauging what support they need or if they're going in the right direction.
2026-09-25 21:07:10
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Billie :
So my manager said the same thing to me the other day what can I do to make it better and I replied “I’ve just done it by speaking to my manager I’m not paid enough to sort this out you are the manager, I have raised this issue to you so I’m going to leave this with you”
2026-09-25 06:11:38
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brandonstaniford :
I got told I looked too tired :)
2026-09-25 13:39:07
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ThePickledPixie 🏴 :
So many people are in management who really aren't cut out for it. Some are too nice, too soft because they dislike confrontation or conflict. Others are too harsh, lack understanding and empathy. They've just ended up going for management positions because of the higher wages and are doing a terrible job.
2026-09-24 10:43:02
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Quilly :
Those 180 “anonymous” feedback surveys. They know who you are.
2026-09-27 12:13:42
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Nu-Metal Dad :
you guys get 1to1s?
2026-09-25 19:14:40
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Danielle K :
Who raises issues in 1-2-1s anymore though? Honestly from my experience that just puts a target on your back. If you don’t like something and can’t deal with it then it’s time to be looking for a new job
2026-09-29 12:47:38
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ultimate_weirdo ◢ ◤ :
Well I’m trying to leave 😭
2026-09-30 08:14:49
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goffininmycoffin :
told my manager I felt like there was a clique at work and he said 'I think that's a really harmful perception to have' 😂
2026-10-07 16:06:03
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zaida :
My interim manager doesn’t allow me to bring topics to our 1:1 💀
2026-09-25 07:33:41
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Frilly Pink Records :
In my 1:1 my line manager just talks about himself for the entire time and goes through stuff *he's* working on. Then at the end he might say "Do you have anything for me?". Of course I say no because by that point I'm absolutely sick of being in that meeting and just want to leave.
2026-09-25 15:11:14
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Charlotte :
Got told I was being too vocal via a 1-1. Decided to let the ship burn for the next quarter and suddenly I was "too quiet". Then my middle ground now has ended up being this exact video 😂
2026-09-26 19:20:46
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Steph 🇧🇪 :
me: the workload is a bit much for one person. boss: well I have a lot of work too. me: 😶
2026-09-28 17:59:32
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mokashuman :
mine used the one to one to illustrate times I undermined her authority by being too knowledgeable and coming across as confident [Tears of joy]
2026-09-24 12:38:59
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Em 🩷 :
Oh my god, yes I have experienced this. I still don’t bring things up in new workplaces because of how horrendous this was for me at that one place 😮💨
2026-09-30 05:44:04
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Msgt :
I got told I needed to be smiley and polite in the morning at the office because I didn’t smile when someone said good morning. 😑😑
2026-09-25 17:09:49
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ZonnyX🇬🇧 :
Yup, try working in local government.
2026-09-25 10:57:17
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mttttttttthw :
As a middle manager, I’m explicitly told I need to be replying like that. SLT calling it “coaching” and my performance review scores include it as a specific skill section 😭 always feels so fake, but does help me always jumping to being a fixer.
2026-09-29 05:51:52
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andyrew_666 :
This flattens and over simplifies it a bit. "What are you going to do about it?" can be poor management or good coaching, depending on context. If the issue is outside their control (workload, resourcing, another manager), throwing it back is abdication. If it's within their remit, handing ownership back builds capability, as long as you follow it with "what are our options?" or "what do you need from me?" The question isn't the problem. Asking it and then walking away is.
2026-09-30 11:42:22
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