@anxiouslyalej: Link in bio for masterclass! The people pleasing and the over giving were never the problem. You repeat them for the same reason you eat pizza when you're hungry.. they meet an UNDERLYING NEED. For you, that need is connection, knowing for certain that you're accepted and loved. And you've been trying to heal by asking when you'll finally stop wanting pizza. Right now you can name your attachment style and quote the theory back to me. You read a room faster than anyone in it and you still can't work out why you disappear in relationships. You go months on your own feeling fine, then three weeks into something new you catch yourself over giving again and decide that means you haven't healed. You're measuring your success by an urge you were never going to lose. Now picture yourself feeling that same urge and knowing exactly what it's asking for. You have other ways to feed it, ways that don't require you to erase everything you are, so the old way stops being appealing on its own. He goes quiet for an evening and you're not starving, because you've been eating well for months. What separates those two versions of you is one skill.. catching the need in the moment it hits and meeting it in a healthier way. Nobody taught you that. You've been improvising it since you were a kid, and every relationship you enter without it runs the same way, with you disappearing by month three and calling it your attachment style. That skill is what I teach inside the She's Strict Masterclass. Ending self-abandoning before it even starts is the first thing we cover, because once you stop doing that, everything else changes. Then for every behaviour you're still repeating, I show you the need underneath it and the healthier ways to meet it, until going back isn't appealing anymore. If you're ready to stop measuring yourself by an impossible metric and actually do the work, COMMENT 444 and I'll send you the masterclass. Keywords: anxious attachment, people pleasing, self abandonment, attachment styles, secure attachment, relationship psychology, dating advice for women, healing anxious attachment #anxiousattachment #relationships #datingforwomen #datingadvice #breakups

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