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Nope :
I LOVE my defensive withdrawal. It has genuinely protected me so much
2026-09-26 21:36:38
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clouds_as_witnesses :
defensive withdrawal is the bane of my existence
2026-09-26 16:01:19
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Celeste :
I ended up with CPTSD and then got fckn diagnosed with OCD too and not the clean kind, the really bad kind that I’m not gonna say bc yall will think I’m crazy
2026-09-26 17:38:58
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Shelby :
My biggest issue. I hate it bc I try to stop myself from doing it. When someone I love makes me feel unsafe I can feel the flip of the switch happen and it makes me cry bc I can’t stop it. After that happens nothing feels authentic and I don’t want to invest in a relationship that isn’t authentic. I have lost so many friendships and relationships with loved ones over this. But me being safe is most important to me.
2026-09-26 22:15:56
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Audri Carlevaro :
Is this the switch in my head that makes me stop caring about people? Like they do something one too many times and I just—completely shut down and don’t care anymore? I don’t choose it and it’s not hard and I don’t realize it’s happened until after it does and I can’t UNDO it
2026-09-26 19:38:12
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sobe_jelly :
And then I ruminate for years
2026-09-26 16:27:43
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Tati :
But I HAVE to cut you off so you don’t fuck with me anymore.
2026-09-26 17:18:20
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φµεεɳ ѵเσℓεƭ :
Oh is this why I cut people off so easy? 😳
2026-09-26 14:51:53
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Page Mustello-Bryant :
and i swear being the eldest daughter makes it worse LOL
2026-09-26 18:30:08
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court :
no bc someone could say one word/phrase and ill never ever look at them the same
2026-09-27 20:09:43
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Pam Cyr :
Yeah if I get triggered I might as well have never met you because that’s how well I detach 😅
2026-09-26 19:10:00
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froglvr69 🐸 :
i completely zone out when anyone is screaming at me lol
2026-10-08 21:47:56
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HonayBaddger :
You could've held my hand first! But actually please don't touch me. 😭
2026-09-26 14:14:44
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dolceviolent :
Lowkey it’s helpful though along with the compartmentalization
2026-10-09 18:52:15
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Layne :
Is this where someone becomes perceived threat and I just stop caring or trusting them?
2026-10-09 11:22:49
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DustMoon089 :
I learn new issues I may have on here everyday
2026-10-08 20:25:19
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Elizabeth Rae :
Oh yes. I’ve met her. We’re bffs.
2026-10-09 08:50:45
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miakayla hooder :
wait wait so is this the thing where someone just raising their voice makes me shut down and my mind go blank? or when someone hurts me so badly that I go numb?
2026-09-27 03:04:20
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Chic in Red :
It’s just called shut down people. No fancy words needed
2026-09-30 02:11:26
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TheaNikolova :
Have been completely isolated for over 2years and can’t even function in society anymore. Just do my work and go hiking alone. It’s monotonous lifestyle but it’s at least safe and peaceful
2026-09-27 16:33:38
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sagiterrorist :
nah I got one for u. stress insomnia induced auditory and visual hallucinations
2026-09-30 03:43:00
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jessajessjessin :
Nobody believes me when I tell them this because I'm such a people pleaser but it actually scares me how fast I can forget someone ever existed
2026-09-27 15:53:52
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Paige :
The worst part about this is being fully self-aware when it starts and still not being able to stop it from happening or continuing. Even afterward when I realize I’ve shut down I still can’t bring myself to stop being defensive even if I know I’m in the wrong.
2026-09-28 09:02:07
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dark.mabon :
Mind you, I’ve gotten past it as a default. But if I sit with it and I recognize that there’s no going back, this makes it super fucking easy to move forward. If I don’t feel safe, there truly isn’t a point. I’ve already tried it.
2026-09-26 22:49:44
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Bunny🍉 :
Is this that thing where when something kinda mildly disappoints me, I just isolate or like cut off all my friends….
2026-09-26 18:26:52
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