@better_sol: Three truths to embrace when you are unmasking autism. #autism #autistic #audhd #professorsol #fyp

flippypullburger :

I'm 53 newly diagnosed and have no idea which parts of me are masking

antsscore :

I have been masking for so long I don’t know who I am or what I want.

baby.cheeses 🇦🇺 :

This hit hard. I am newly accepting that I am AuDHD. I have not purposefully unmasked, yet it is happening (it’s a process). I now feel ahedonistic. Is this normal???

Solange Costa :

48, just diagnosed AuDhd. At the beginning of my journey. I don’t know what is mine what is not yet. So used to masking that it's automatic. How do you reverse the automation? Thanks for your content! My friends call me Sol your

Klick Witch 🇨🇦 | Coloring :

something I've come to understand is that all my life I wanted to make people happy, but I shouldn't need to be unhappy or uncomfortable to make that happen. recently I took a big step in letting a family member know I don't like plain vanilla cake after one was purchased for my birthday so in the future could they please try for chocolate or strawberry instead. normally I would stay quiet as it feels spoiled, but my partner noticed how upset I was after (bought me two cakes lol) and realized it was less about the cake and more about the fact they didn't know.

starflyer831 :

You’re the only person who makes me feel like I’m not insane.

Catzyme🇳🇿🐶🐈 :

In the unmasking process I find myself going right back to my 3 year old self. Or before I learned that voicing my needs and expressing as I am on the inside is not ok.

Bradan Miller :

My problem is that I don’t care if it isn’t my responsibility to make them feel comfortable. I hate hurting people, regardless if it’s their own fault for being uncomfortable or not. Unless they do something that hurts someone else, I can handle being something I’m not. As long as I help people be ok then I have fulfilled my purpose. Don’t really know why I said this in a TikTok message but whatever.

clover_the_rat :

I stopped trying to unmask because it makes everyone around me upset.

Alysana :

I have been working on myself for so long, but have been growing increasingly unstable ever since my adhd diagnosis this year. It sucks to realise that yes, you do indeed have needs, and there is no way of fulfilling them. Hope it gets less painful over time..

Sana :

Thank you! I really relate to this. This video is why I struggle with depression and feel like I don’t belong. I try to be very nice to everyone, but it seems like every woman I come across labels me negatively or puts extreme labels on me, and I end up feeling deeply hated. I’ve struggled with female friendships for most of my life. I get blocked or ghosted a lot, and I’ve spent years trying to figure out why. I’m autistic, and I’ve been told that the way I explain myself can come across as arguing or talking too much, even when that isn’t my intention. I’m also naturally very friendly and laugh easily and loudly, and sometimes people interpret that completely differently than I mean it. It’s exhausting feeling like people constantly misunderstand my intentions and impact as well.

Orphans_Among_Us :

hence, why all partners who were attracted to me loved that I had no needs and no boundaries. they all ended so BADLY.

Sebastian :

I have been doing these things my whole life..do not know how to fix..

harlow51🇨🇦 :

I couldn't figure out why I became much more sensitive to my environment after I retired and I realized that I didn't have to mask anymore.

_lpz93 :

needed to hear this today ❤️‍🩹

Kat Rose Mac :

FandomCrossStitchery🏳️‍🌈 :

ok but why did #1 feel SO mind-blowing?

karenzapata2994 :

I realized I was trying so hard to be a person who never complained that I was eating foods all the time that I actually hated.

Mandala°• :

if I learnt this in my 20s instead of 40s I would have led a different life. To realise this now is heartbreaking. But I try not to think about it 😅

getdatpromo :

I don’t know if I mask that well but I realised at work I do this, I mimic my clients and match their energy but boy am I exhausted afterwards.

IsekaiMePls🌎 :

thank you for posting

Cimmy :

so helpfull! thank you🥰

Jill💜PurpleStar :

Oh wow this just explains my life and what I need to do thank you 😳🥰💞

Danica Raven :

are you suppose to unmask at home and mask at work ?

🌘⚠️xXUZ1_DoORM4NXx⚠️🌒 :

woah