@emilypowellauthenticself: POV: your therapist asks how you were comforted as a child, and this is your answer. Here’s the thing…you were NEVER a bad kid. Perhaps, you didn’t receive the level of attunement you actually needed and deserved. Perhaps, when you had regular emotions, you were told to “sort it out on your own,” and self isolate… which led to the thinking, analyzing, intellectualizing parts of you to turn on. These parts disconnect you from physically embodying and connecting with the emotional experience itself. It becomes safer to stay in the brain, rather than feel into the body. If you received messaging that you were “bad” or “too much,” you may have developed a protective system rooted in analyzing and staying far from embodiment. In reality, you likely needed attunement, and for someone to sit with you in your “big emotions” (that are completely normal for anyone to have!) #intellectualizer #emotionalneglect #ifstherapy #adultchildrenofemotionallyimmatureparents #attunement

Emily Powell, MA&PA therapist

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