Heather R. Marshall
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Hollypop1986 :
Is there any hope for them? Do any of them actually recover?
2026-10-06 11:19:37
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Audra🌹 🌈 🦄 :
Oof this just really got me thinking about a "friend" of mine and man this sucks. I don't think they are as much of a victim as said person claims.
2026-10-06 11:19:46
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jnils77 :
Went to therapy so I could be “less crazy” and ended up being told this was the aftermath of coming out of an abusive relationship (friendship).
2026-09-28 12:51:59
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Merisa :
This is everything I needed to hear today. Thank you
2026-10-06 00:37:51
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Mags :
Me listening to this video trying to see if I’m the problem 🫣
2026-10-04 00:29:52
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sugggamomma :
I don't know what even to say... bc I bent over backwards trying to "do" the right thing even heard from him that I don't hold myself accountable and the therapist agreed. my panic attacks and anxiety attacks got so much worse, for a while I was leaving work early bc of em... i tried everything to "correct" my behavior... until I realized it wasn't me... and now I will call him manipulative... and I'm getting divorced... so... still feel like I'm in the wrong sometimes bc it was such. mind f#%k
2026-10-05 23:27:32
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Center & Rise :
Yep! And they’re called Covert Narcissists.
2026-09-28 06:39:30
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Lyra :
My ex childhood best friend of 7 years was definitely a narcissist. "You always ruin everything!" responding to me crying after she actively bullied me or even physically hurt me.
2026-10-05 17:15:09
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Brandon Daley :
everyone is toxic in a toxic relationship. No one is a victim. Adults are adults and its none of our business
2026-09-29 17:12:52
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conversationhijacker :
the victim wants the truth out in the open the abuser needs to triangulate
2026-10-01 04:30:26
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jana :
They act like the victim it’s so warped
2026-09-28 03:20:39
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RSVP INC :
When he cheated I wasn’t even allowed to raise my voice . The cheating wasn’t important, my tone of voice was what he focused and I apologized to him 🥺
2026-10-03 18:19:38
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Lauren Richardson :
It took me MANY many therapy sessions to stop saying that I am the abuser, because I was believing everything that I was being told about myself. In my last session my therapist finally told me that narcissists take zero accountability and I have done nothing but take accountability for every little thing that I did. When his gaslighting was brought up, he would immediately change the subject. Lies, subject change about something I did that forced him to lie. I hated myself…
2026-09-28 02:03:49
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ShaunG 🇿🇦 :
✍️✍️writing things down, in context prevented the story being twisted and turned against me. it works 🤗🤗🤗
2026-09-27 16:06:40
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Less noise :
DARVO was my exact interaction as o stood there like a deer in the headlights thinking.... are you for real?
2026-10-05 01:52:35
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Kristy Krab :
He brought out the absolute worst in me, may that dynamic never find me again. He talked about his exes the way you described too, basically verbatim, and I didn’t even clock that as a red flag.
2026-09-28 05:24:47
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Joshua C. ❌️❌️❌️ :
Gratitude
2026-10-04 21:18:32
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Karen Lockhart :
abusers focus on the victim the victims focus on healing
2026-10-01 03:29:32
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❤️🔥 Dustinova ❤️🔥 :
Thank you. It’s also horrible because the job of educating people also falls on the victim whom’s actively being painted as unstable.
2026-09-28 05:16:53
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Little Girlfriend :
This is extremely accurate 🙈😂
2026-09-27 17:47:36
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Elle_01 :
I flipped out! I flip out- he stays quiet. I’m the threat 👀
2026-10-01 02:13:49
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Cynthia Novillo :
Went to therapy for two years bc he told me I was “unstable” and needed to be better for us. Therapist told me I was in an abusive relationship. I was constantly asking why I couldn’t be less crazy, less intense and I felt guilty for everything that happened. I justified his behavior bc he had a hard childhood and I felt very protective of him bc he was a year younger than me. I even was SAd by him but didn’t know bc he made me believe that’s what couples do (he was my very first bf). I still blame myself so much, I know I did things that hurt him but mostly they were reactions to the dynamic.
2026-09-28 18:34:06
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Jake and Lyle :
Also it's almost always who's the loudest and first to start the narrative of the other being bad is the narcissist. usually the narcassist will be mad and victim is sad. you're pretty spot on
2026-09-28 03:45:48
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Brian P. Valley :
thankyou for putting this into words
2026-09-27 21:34:06
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J Smith :
I think that’s true until the victim starts to truly heal and then they shift to just talking about the perp. The next stage is their accountability. So it’s self blame, then shift of blame and then their own role. The first being the longest stage.
2026-09-28 01:54:58
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